Rferraris
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Having lived in a few different cultures in my life, this is something that I've become really interested in… and I think that everyone has their own sense of what it is.
I'm sure that almost everyone knows the extreme, direct forms of racism but I've actually heard that subtle racism is actually more psychologically harmful-- things like being ignored in a shoe store over and over actually have longer-lasting effects than some skinhead douchebag talking about how he wants to kick you out of his country. It's a pretty small minority that walk around with swastikas tattooed on their chests or who outwardly condemn interracial relationships, but I was wondering where exactly do people draw the line with this kind of thing.
Are you racist if you walk into a room full of people of a different race and feel uncomfortable?
I don't think walking into a room and feeling uncomfortable makes you a racist. I think not trying to change your behavior, hurting someone else or being rude, making no effort to understand or over come your fears makes you a racist.
Acting out makes you a racist.
Are you racist if someone of a certain race sits beside you on the bus and you feel threatened somehow?
If its a big ass guy that could probably brush you away from sheer size alone and has an attitude, then no. That's just common sense. Things that are different create fear. That's evolutuon and you wouldn't be here if we were different. But once again learning is the key. Just cause he's black doesn't make him a bad person. Just cause he's white, doesn't make him/her a bad person. You're doing yourself a big injustice to rule peope out that way. I'm lucky I grew up the way I did. I have a lot of friends because of it. But that doesn't mean you should walk through bad neighborhoods talking about love.
What if you can't bring yourself to find anyone of a different race attractive?
We like what we like. I don't think I should appologise for that.
What if you walk around feeling guilted about things that you're not directly responsible for because they're the actions of people of a race to which you belong?
You mean like slavery?
I never enslaved anyone. Sort of.
But we as a country did what we did.
As a country we should say we are sorry. That doesn't mean I'm personally saying I'm sorry for what I did, but I am personally sorry for what happened.
And no one should make you feel differently. IMO. There is reverse racism too and looking to blame others is not taking responsibility. It's convenient to blame others. That does little to move us forward as does walking away from what has happened. Not talking openly about it and acknowledging responsibility for it. As much as you can be responsible for the country's past.
Not the same as giving all your money to some poor black kid cause you're not sure how to feel about him. I don't think anyone expects that. But understanding how slavery has hurt us as a nation, hurt the self image of a people, hurt the environment and upbringing of a lot of children and the maybe dismal prospect a lot of kids have because of race. You need to look at it in the eye. In the face.
It's real. And it hurts. And it's not about you. But asking questions, I think, gets you a little closer.
For me, racism is when you believe that being of a certain race means that an individual is automatically predisposed towards certain behaviors, and fail to recognize the human race as nothing more than individuals who are capable of making their own choices and of having their own unique personalities that aren't necessarily bound to any particular culture, background, or social construct-- including, or even especially their so-called racial identity… I don't think that the reactions beyond your control are necessarily racism because they can be just a learned behavior that is corrected by exposing yourself to things, but I do think that it takes effort to see things clearly and that in some cases being truly free of racism is actually an ongoing struggle in anyone's life.
I do think a lot of people struggle with it.
It depends on how much time you spend with people. I can't really say I feel anything but love for my friends. Even the black ones.
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