So what you're saying is that a woman is worthless without friends and family. Unable to make decisions or have willpower without people to tell her what to do?
These women are at best legally mentally retarded for not having the ability to reason or make decisions based on evidence. Of the INFJ Women I polled on this topic, 100% of them said that their willpower and decision making and values come from within.
Those women who remain in abusive relationships are pathetic.
Actually, those most succeptible to staying in an abusive relationship are women who are not well-adjusted due to a history of family dysfunction. (Didn't I already say that somewhere?)
If you grow up in one unhealthy environment where abuse is normalized, it is very difficult to jump to the idea that your pain is valid and you don't deserve to be treated in such a way. I think you are assuming that a person from this background is going to function the same way as a person who grew up in a healthy and stable environment. It would take a resilient person from a dysfunctional background to be able to just up and leave an abusive relationship on the spot--the first time, and never go back.
I can't accept any of your anger at women who are in abusive romantic relationships. Because I'm sure that those of you commenting have never been in one, and you're not able to empathize. You don't know the experience. I'm speaking from experience. I understand the psychology of a woman who stays with an abuser. I left mine the first time he touched me and never went back. But I did battle with myself over wanting to go back. And that was excruciating.
I was able to do this because my mother was physically abused by my father and she left him. She set an example for me there. If she had not left, the abuse would have been normalized for me and I either might have not left or had a much harder time doing so.
Another thing that helped me a lot was friends and family who were there for me to help me cope by spending time with me and getting my mind off the situation.
I think your anger is misguided because you're frustrated by what you don't understand. It seems like it should be so simple to you but it's not.
As far as your INFJ poll goes, I can believe that. To a point. But really, entirely from within? Because I doubt that all of those INFJs you polled are completely untouched by any socialization be it from their family, peers, or culture at large. We're ALL influenced by external forces to a degree, even the INFJs. Doesn't the INFJ search the external world to derrive their values from based on the people who surround them?
Perhaps your INFJs have been fortunate enough to have had very stable and happy home lives. I think your poll argument is flawed.
