What type of men do infj girls like

GracieRuth said:
I think he's creepy. First, if I start to cry, I don't sit on park benches. Second, if a guy sat down next to me and asked me if I was okay, I'd smile and say, "Oh you know how life is. Stuff happens. Very kind of you to ask, but I'll be alright." If he persisted in talking to me, I'd know he was hitting on me.
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He's a liar, he never deleted the photo. He just proceeded to bother her.
 
GracieRuth said:
I think he's creepy. First, if I start to cry, I don't sit on park benches. Second, if a guy sat down next to me and asked me if I was okay, I'd smile and say, "Oh you know how life is. Stuff happens. Very kind of you to ask, but I'll be alright." If he persisted in talking to me, I'd know he was hitting on me.
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Sweet ENTPs do act creepy because they are uncomfortable with their sweetness.
 
Well, I transcend gender, but the ideal qualities that a male partner would have would be that they're nice, at least somewhat awkward, sweet, smart, has strong morals, and is soft-spoken normally but would stand up for their beliefs when in a debate. I'm open to any of the MBTI types as long as they possess those qualities. Well, I would prefer for them to be soft-spoken but as long as they stand up for their beliefs I'm fine.
 
INFJS, and MOST WOMEN, like men who DONT MARGINALIZE THEM LIKE THIS THREAD'S INTENTION IS TO DO.
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Yes, thank you.

Although, I am not sure that was really the OPs actual intention, do you think so? He was just curious, he said so.

After having watched The Other Boleyn Girl, I am ruling out anyone even remotely like Henry the 8th, who really marginalized women, and also beheaded them.

Personally, I like men who are kind and honest. Make that PEOPLE who are kind and honest. Those always go over well, I would think with INFJs and everyone -- and WHY is that so hard to understand or do. People write books and books telling others how to be manipulative dickheads in order to attract the opposite sex, and those books actually sell. What a shame.
 
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This is a post I took from another personality type forum but I thought it described so accurately my 4-year relationship with my INFJ ex-girlfriend that I needed to share it.

INFJ - INTP Relationship
INTPs often tend to fall for INFJs, particularly in a heterosexual relationship where the male is INTP and the female is INFJ. Since I am in this one, I can give my theory on why these types fall for each other:

Why INFJs Fall for INTPs:

1. INTPs are honest. In fact, they may be the most straight-forward and truthful of the types...to the point that their precision with the truth can seem pedantic to others, and even socially awkward when they are attempting to see social rituals through their objective lense. Still, INFJs really love this quality, and often come to rely on the INTP's sense of honesty and truth once they learn to trust the INTP.

One of the potential pitfalls of the relationship never getting off the ground is the INFJ's tendency to think they can see the motivation behind everyone's statements and actions...but an INTP often has no alternative motivation then stating what they honestly perceive to be the case. I've had INFJs and ENFJs that have gotten on my nerves by constantly questioning my objectivity because they think they can "read me" and see alternative motives when there are none there.

2. INTPs make fantastic and often genius connections that impress the INFJ, and even lead her to growth for herself. While INTJs ask the question "Does it work?" ENTPs ask, "How could it potentially be?" and ENTJs ask, "How can it be best put to use?" we INTPs ask a more fundamental and base question: "Is this true?" We ask others to tell us what it IS, not what it could be, what they think about it, how it is used, etc...just what it is.

This unique persective contributes a lot to our obsession with logical correctness and truth, and hence the attraction from #1, but it also answers vital questions an INFJ is likely to never consider, as the questions they tend to ask, such as, "Is this good for others?" and "Do people have a right to do this?" often skip over more basic questions that are answered by the INTP. Going "back" to review these questions, which is what the INTP brings to the INFJ, will often cause the INFJ to view things in a new, more precise perspective, causing much personal growth.

3. This is related to 1, but bears mentioning separately. There is very often a constant miscommunication between the types (where the INTP is being logical in explaining his theories, thinking the INFJ is very interested, while the INFJ thinks the INTP is expressing his feelings...being open and honest about the subject) that is actually beneficial to producing attraction. If there isn't a huge gap in intelligence between the types, this can be a great thing, as the INFJ can understand the theories the INTP is communicating and contribute to the conversation, even helping modify and produce new explanations for things...it makes for great conversation.

4. INTPs like sex. INFJs like sex.

Why INTPs Fall for INFJs

1. Mystery. We INTPs love logic, mathematics, language, and anything that requires theories and explanations to learn, but we perhaps are more intrigued by those things we have extreme difficulty explaining. INFJs often have a certain "psychic" quality to them that can be extremely intriguing. They almost seem to read the thoughts of others at times. Later in the relationship, after the INFJ has learned the habits of the INTP, this quality is very beneficial, as the INFJ can "call out" the INTP on things they aren't as objective as they tend to be.

2. The INFJ mindset ("Is this good for people?" "Do people have a right to do this?") can provoke an INTP into interest in such fields as psychology, philosophy (especially ethics), sociology, and the like. INFJs, if anything, are INSPIRING to an INTP, as they provide such a different way of looking at things that the INTP is inspired to learn and make theories on subjects the INTP may not have even considered at all important before.

3. INFJs like sex. INTPs like sex.

4. Life is tough to an INTP. For the same reasons INFJs and INFPs get along well, INTPs and INFJs have a similar thing: INTPs are so counter to the dominant cultural mindset that life can be VERY wearing on us. INFJs are even called "the confidants" and this quality is very nice to an INTP. When our emotions do come out, it will only be to a select person or very very limited group of people. If an INFJ is the closest person to us in life, then this rare outpouring is made much easier for the INTP, and often makes the INFJ feel great as they are trusted with a rare phenomenon.
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Right here, oh God yes. Thanks [MENTION=564]acd[/MENTION]. I'm pretty sure his fly is down.
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A man that gains entry into my world has substance and character. Last time I was single my ESFP friend tried to stitch me up with handsome socially "highly priced" guys. All looked good on paper but to me they lacked whatever nebulous I was looking for. I go by intuition and that alone now that I'm older. I tend to gravitate toward ENFJs and especially ENFPs because they are so warm and loving in a personal way. I like feelers. I'm tired of having to defend my views via logic. I'm impatient that way. I also don't like people telling me to "not be a sellout" when I'm being diplomatic, so that axes most INFPs. (<---not being diplomatic there ;D ) EDIT: You can probably tell that my experiences were with YOUNG INFPs. In retrospect I was a "sellout" back then. ;D We were both learning. I did meet a wonderful mellow older INFP. Really charming. Our paths just crossed but there was a sympathetic aknowledgement.
I want to be pushed out of my comfort zone so I like Extroverts. I like their ease in navigating the sensing sphere, but also the fact they don't accuse me of being impractical or bad with S issues cause they have the same problem.
I like men with the same passion in life.
I like intense, wise and dynamic...and good looking (<---to my eyes).
All this is of course just preference like what kind of bread I like.

I'm backtracking and seeing what kind of guys I've dated in hindsight, however I just know it when I see it.
And I'd even go one step further and say that I really just waited to find my husband...or that he'd find me in this case. ;D How classic.
My husband is an ENTP and I just love love love him. After meeting him I couldn't imagine being with anyone else ever again come hell or high water. He's my best friend and "partner in crime".
I don't see why people complain about INFJ women being picky. They're just efficient, trying to save their time and yours and a lot of heartache. I wish I'd been even pickier! There's be a lesser trail of confused dudes in the world.
Why don't you like herring and strawberries? I find it quite rude of you not to. You should try it. It's good. It isn't? There's something wrong with you. All men should eat herring and strawberries all the time, says I.
 
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Daniel Swift, your post made me think very fondly of INTP men and women I know and love. (:

And Reverie

My husband is an ENTP and I just love love love him. After meeting him I couldn't imagine being with anyone else ever again come hell or high water. He's my best friend and "partner in crime".

I don't see why people complain about INFJ women being picky. They're just efficient, trying to save their time and yours and a lot of heartache. I wish I'd been even pickier! There's be a lesser trail of confused dudes in the world.

Why don't you like herring and strawberries? I find it quite rude of you not to. You should try it. It's good. It isn't? There's something wrong with you. All men should eat herring and strawberries all the time, says I.
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hahahahahahahaha.... well written and so true.
 
Reverie said:
A man that gains entry into my world has substance and character. Last time I was single my ESFP friend tried to stitch me up with handsome socially "highly priced" guys. All looked good on paper but to me they lacked whatever nebulous I was looking for. I go by intuition and that alone now that I'm older. I tend to gravitate toward ENFJs and especially ENFPs because they are so warm and loving in a personal way. I like feelers. I'm tired of having to defend my views via logic. I'm impatient that way. I also don't like people telling me to "not be a sellout" when I'm being diplomatic, so that axes most INFPs. (<---not being diplomatic there ;D ) EDIT: You can probably tell that my experiences were with YOUNG INFPs. In retrospect I was a "sellout" back then. ;D We were both learning. I did meet a wonderful mellow older INFP. Really charming. Our paths just crossed but there was a sympathetic aknowledgement.
I want to be pushed out of my comfort zone so I like Extroverts. I like their ease in navigating the sensing sphere, but also the fact they don't accuse me of being impractical or bad with S issues cause they have the same problem.
I like men with the same passion in life.
I like intense, wise and dynamic...and good looking (<---to my eyes).
All this is of course just preference like what kind of bread I like.

I'm backtracking and seeing what kind of guys I've dated in hindsight, however I just know it when I see it.
And I'd even go one step further and say that I really just waited to find my husband...or that he'd find me in this case. ;D How classic.
My husband is an ENTP and I just love love love him. After meeting him I couldn't imagine being with anyone else ever again come hell or high water. He's my best friend and "partner in crime".
I don't see why people complain about INFJ women being picky. They're just efficient, trying to save their time and yours and a lot of heartache. I wish I'd been even pickier! There's be a lesser trail of confused dudes in the world.
Why don't you like herring and strawberries? I find it quite rude of you not to. You should try it. It's good. It isn't? There's something wrong with you. All men should eat herring and strawberries all the time, says I.
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At this stage in my life, I agree with you. IN** men I "get" but I find them sneaky. I'm so tired of defending every last detail when sometimes I give just because I like to give. Being that I work my ass off, also I get taken advantage of a lot by introverted men & they hide me like I'm a gimp. Extroverts take me out & show me off -- they love it when I get dressed up and SMILE!!! I like how extroverts will overlook & have humor about our bad qualities. Introvert men just what to exploit & use the situation to take the focus off of them. However, if extroverts push me into a person I'm not as in "trophy wife" -- they can have it, I'm gone at that juncture.
 
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However, if extroverts push me into a person I'm not as in "trophy wife" -- they can have it, I'm gone at that juncture.
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That's so funny you said that! I find having an INFJ for a trophy wife is extra funny, but you know it's totally happened to me many times. Well...I'd say that some guys just take the being proud and a little too exuberantly happy about their pretty, accomplished and relatively presentable wife TOO FAR.
I have an ESFP friend and colleague and to be 100% honest we're absolutely terrible when we team up socially. We can both be really nice and funny and joke around and I'm gonna say that SHE flirts, I forget I'm wrapped up in a girl shell and am playful ;D but it LOOKS identical. I swear though I absolutely do not care to have guys attracted to me. It always suprises me. My friend is a little bit of a femme fatale in stark contrast. She likes guys pining over her. I like slippers and tea and a book.
...anyway...my point was for all purposes to the untrained eye we're identical twins. Difference is on the inside. I'm still to this day uneasy in crowds, she swims in them like a dolphin on a warm summery day, playfully jumping in and out of the water with the sun on her skin. Warm and happy. Me...not so much. So she goes first "How you doing..Great! Awesome!!! Lalllalaa! And I come after "Lallalaa. Hi there!How are you? Oh how is your wife? Has she recovered? Remember I spoke to you last and said there was this book that might hep you. I'll send it to you..." Now she would love to be and would make a great trophy wife...me not so much.
But I think at the core the problem is man culture. If my husbands old friends see him they often say "Hi how are you? Oh this is your wife? Woah.You're doing good!"
I'm there seething... I mean how do they know what kind of a Xanthippe I am? But as for my husband he just thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread and as he's an wonderfully enthusiastic ENFP it means telling everyone how wonderful I am and how I can do this and that and blaah blaah...Oh it's a terrible life, I know... ;)
 
Regarding that video: If REAL he would have been 100% on-board but he's not, he's exploiting her and it's a fake video. He didn't delete her picture. He's an ass.
 
I think you're looking way too into it. It's just a fantasy dialogue. Kinda like ultra softcore brain porn for the thinking girl.
 
Sensiko said:
I think you're looking way too into it. It's just a fantasy dialogue. Kinda like ultra softcore brain porn for the thinking girl.
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When the tables are turned it looks like men are pushed down into the brain pornography business for "thinking girls" to exploit. Disgusting.
 
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