Yes, these reasons are why in life I have engaged with an INFJ, and gazed upon them, wide-eyed and dreamy, and urged them to bloom, by nodding and saying “tell me more.”
The fact that they do it wrong is exactly why they can be so very right. Of course, my penchant for anarchism and free association—“our rules”—heavily plays into my approach and engagement. A couple of times an INFJ took that to mean it was safe to freewheel with me, and rightly so, but it can result in overexcitation on both sides when each has less life and reciprocal experience.
I do take issue with her fourth point, regarding giving. What she says is not wrong, but there are also takers, and I see both styles as indicative of a maladaptive approach to the meeting of need, typically operating on a very low level psychologically. This imbalance tends to be persistent across the lifespan without purposeful and focused self-work.
Overall, solid. I liked what she said about being oneself with each and every, and that some will be attracted, and some will withdraw, and that is okay. True that.
Best to You,
Ian