which emotions do you find uncomfortable expressing?
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Efromm I do exactly the same thing! Anytime I try to tell someone I care about them say anything nice about them I get the urge to cry as soon as i start saying the words. I cry at weird times and avoid saying things just because i know they'll make me cry. I think this keeps me at a distance from most people (not including my BF) because I don't want to look vulnerable in that way. I also usually don't stand up for myself in conflict situations because I'm afraid that I will end up crying.
The funny thing is that expressing those words that make me cry are also the words that I enjoy expressing the most. It feels so good yet so scary. I'm working on facing my fears of vulnerability so that I can enjoy expressing my feelings freely, and maybe even standing up for myself once in a while.
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elysium
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I value sincerity so very, very much (more than a whole lot of things) and I find it way too hard to express sympathy or empathy. I can feel it wrenching my insides and pummeling my heartstrings, but I get all stiff and awkward when it comes time to express that. Then I just come off as cold and indifferent.
The same goes for showing affection. Just general affection (not deep affection...I have no problem with that). I don't understand how girls can be all hug-y and "I love you, girl!" all the time. Whenever my female friends go this route with me I get exceedingly, exceedingly uncomfortable. So much that I often just shut down and become a robot. I know I have that love for them, but I would feel so very insincere expressing it in that way.
So I try to live by this quotation in order to counteract how cold I must seem in those instances:
As for other emotions? No problem whatsoever (but only around the right people...otherwise I'm "cold on the outside, warm on the inside")
Jayce
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This is exactly how I feel.
I have problems expressing any deep seeded emotions to anyone. I've never told any family member that I love them unless I was forced to. Friends have said they love me and get upset when I don't say it in return. When I do say it, it feels awkward and strange. It's not that I don't love them it's just that...eh, I dunno.
I have an especially hard time expressing sadness and anger to others. I keep those feelings bottled up. When I was a little kid, my family acted like dicks and often mocked me when I started crying so I learned to keep it to myself. Well, I guess their not completely bottled up because I'll express them in the privacy of my journal or by crying when I'm alone. I cry a lot, actually. Probably because I get overwhelmed by my feelings.
The first time I cried in front of a friend was this year. I was having a craptastic day and was still upset about my girlfriend breaking up with me. She was explaining to me how it wasn't a good idea to ask my ex out to prom when all of I sudden I started bawling. For those few minutes, I cried my eyes out but quickly got a hold of myself. I DID NOT like loosing control over my emotions and felt bad for my friend who had to see me like that. If Also, if I lose control, I feel like I'll have to explain myself to the other. I've learned that I am incapable of coherently explaining my feelings to others unless I write it down.
Because I cannot properly express why I'm feeling such a way, some friends believe that my feelings are unfounded which I assure you, they are not. So at the end of the day, I don't bother with trying to explain myself to others. I try to work it out on my own and not bother people because I'll probably just come off as whiny.
Vegscara
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I have trouble expressing distaste for other people or their actions.. I guess its because i don't want to hurt them maby. I smile and talk to people who are obnoxious evil bastards and I don't know why. Also if a friend or family member does somthing i don't like I have trouble expressing it as well.
