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"Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart
- MBTI
- ENTJ
- Enneagram
- 3w4, 3-8-7
If God was an INFP, life would be like a song.INFJ God is munificent.
If God was an INFP, life would be like a song.INFJ God is munificent.
If God was an INFP, life would be like a song.
Are you saying it isn't ? Then why do I always hear background music in my head whenever I'm awake?If God was an INFP, life would be like a song.
*songs .I hate it when my keyboard challenges my com and of the English languageAlbeit the song changes throughout the day. My whole life is expressed in sings that play in my head. But alas I am infj
It did it again!!!!# * command!!! Command #########*songs .I hate it when my keyboard challenges my com and of the English language
The problem with niceness is that it can come over as a submission response. That means that some of the people we are nice to then treat us as a pack inferior. ...An extreme example - it’s quite a problem for a temperamentally nice manager who can end up as the social inferior of their team, responding in all kinds of silly ways to try regain the high ground - and this renders leadership impossible and at worst can make them look tragic to everyone else.
I have realised that everything I do has never been done for coming across a certain way - I am only ever who I am. I can't lie, so I am always honest to the best of my knowledge. I can't stand people being hurt or stuck or feeling anything negative at all, so I do my best to help wherever I can. For the rest of the time I am pretty much keeping to myself.
By being who you are and being comfortable with it, you can show them a potentially better way of being, by honouring who they are. Of course, there is always the possibility of being duped, played or bullied in the process, but so long as you know who you are it gives you the upper hand in any situation. Because if you always are yourself, and aren't liked or appreciated for it, you definitely know where you stand... In the end, it doesn't matter who can appreciate that you're being nice to them. It's you being happy or at least content for having made the choice to be nice to them, especially when they are not capable of returning that niceness. Because maybe, just maybe, you can teach them a better way to be by showing them who you are.
I dunno, I'm genuinely struggling to answer the question or even properly conceptualise it I think
I've thought really hard about the OP here, and I don't think I've ever experienced the negatives of being 'nice'.
Maybe my good deeds don't attach to labels like 'nice'.
Maybe the people I've helped have been genuinely appreciative and not interested in any power games.
Maybe I've cultivated very reciprocal relationships.
Maybe there have been mitigating factors in the rest of my 'reputation'. Like if you have a reputation for being otherwise forceful or assertive, then being 'nice' is seen in a different context...
Maybe we can call this 'munificence'.
The difference between the munificent individual and the nice one seems to be power, at least in the language. Or at least the level of dignity they reserve for themselves.
I dunno, I'm genuinely struggling to answer the question or even properly conceptualise it I think, at least for my own experience. Even others who I've seen get exploited because of their agreeableness... I wouldn't say that's a symptom of 'niceness', it's something else.
So personally I'm not sure that there's necessarily any real link between niceness and being taken advantage of
and her response was 'I don't give a fuck who you are! Now you can wait.'
The action of being nice is clearly beneficial. The problem largely arises within the sexual social context, because creating allure requires the creation of a sense of danger, in essence.
Men and women alike are in general highly attracted to experiences that feel dangerous but also have some level of certain safety.
Some people are better at creating this feeling, and some people use it for personal gain in the pursuit of their life goals/career.
And it is fully supported, because people like it. So, if you don't have this sort of playful creation of allure sorted out, you may find yourself at a disadvantage in some situations.
But also, it's frustrating because there are plenty of people who don't understand that the idea is to create a sense of danger and not danger itself.
I am guessing at some level you already intuitively do this, so you've never really run up against a situation of conflict in this context.
And plus, munificence tends to override things so if you are defaulting to that, you are having very few problems navigating socially, in all likelihood.
'belligerently outspoken'
As long as the respect and appreciation is there and is clearly shown, I don't see why we should be wary of being 'too nice'.
after awhile, the novelty wears off. Know what I mean? Habituation desensitizes us to the behavior, or the reputation.
You're describing the decision to be nice -- as long as your principles are not violated. The person who wanted indoors demanded the right to ruin her clean floors because he had rank in the hierarchy. No self-respecting INFJ should reward that behavior. I bet she would have let him in if he had requested relief from the cold and rain. (As long as he reciprocated by not dripping all over.) I don't think most situations where people are being nice involve such an immediate challenge to our principles. Rather, the niceness is given and then (later) the rudeness happens.
You might be an INTJ
Very important point
I wonder if at some point that will die off in favour of more subtle power games.
Of course, they are probably too idealistic to realize that they will put another (equally irritating) model in its place.
You might be an INTJ when... lol