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Hahahah! I cub-napped ALL da red pandas for myself!

Wow, that was...

This current job has always been temporary though I must admit, I have been out of my career longer than I would like. Much longer and I am actually starting to get a little worried. I realized at some point I have been killing myself trying to get this woman to acknowledge how great I am. My previous jobs that were far more important and challenging I excelled at. My reviews were always outstanding though supervisors were told to give those marks out rarely. I got blindsided a couple of times, unknowingly brought into a room full of a lot of government big wigs including some that reported directly to congress concerning a complaint someone had about how my team was doing and held my own making and that person look like what they were. An unknowing …well an unknowing person. The idea I would end up in such an unimportant go nowhere job and be told that no matter how hard I worked or tried is wasn’t good enough… Well it drove me a bit over the edge to the point I wasn’t seeing clearly. So like I said, bad manager. I just have to hope now that I don’t get fired because of their idiocy. Need a real job as of a year ago.
Moving back into the condo beginning of June. How long I stay there is dependent on if I can turn things around in 3 months. We will see. If I get a job in Oregon I move. If I get a job here, I don’t. Time we reveal all.

I definitely worry too much about other people's feelings. They don't seem to worry about mine so I don't know why I should worry about theirs so much.
I have heard it said that it is a selfish thing to worry so much about others' feelings, that it is because it makes us feel bad and that's what we're trying to stop. Maybe we're not so much too nice but over-sensitive? That viewpoint gave me a different perspective on it.

Oh and hell, I should NOT be anyones life coach. Sorry for seeming like one. All I offer is a different perspective. Things that seem to elude others confuse me because they seem so simple.
Maybe I should stop butting in. I think you are an open and palatable person. So far… You have offered me your perspective in the past so I just assume its ok for me to do the same.

Hmmm... An interesting situation. Do you have the option of simply avoiding the person or are the unavoidable? Are they family where you cant tell it like it is really? All questions.
Yes if you can avoidance is probably best. If in the same situation I would if it was an option.

You know I finally figured out whats going on where I work. I have a bad manager. I cant avoid them, so I have to put up with them. Even so I dont let her walk over me. When shes says something that BS I let her know. It doesnt seem to phase her though and it doesnt matter to me if it does. I simply tell her the way things are so she doesnt get the pleasure of thinking Im stupid. When I am gone, shell still be working at that BS job.

Anyway, yep, find people that lift you up not bring you down.

Ok so seriously, about this guy that’s makes you feel like crap.
Lets look at a couple of things.
Maybe your feet did stink. Its possible. How did he say it. Jokingly or seriously. I don’t think most people who stink know they stink. Too blunt? Maybe but I have stunk before and not known it after 10 hours in the sun. It’s a human thing, it happens. I know I know Im a guy, I naturally stink. I strongly suspect though that this is not the case. Women don’t

BUT, what is more likely happening is that this guy is interested in you. It’s a well known guy trick to make fun of a girl to make her think hes better than her. A woman thinks she knows that if a guy can make fun of her, the guy has more going on then she does. WRONG. Most beautiful women are used to guys hitting on them but aren’t used to guys telling them they look funny. The reversal works surprisingly well. Hes likely intimidated by you, seriously.

So if you are interested in the guy say something like, “I you ever going to grow a pair of balls and ask me out or are you just going to continue to act stupid.” If you aren’t interested tell him you think he is childish and immature and that he needs to back off and maintain a professional relationship. Either or it should shut him up.
The last thing, believe in yourself. You are just as important as anyone else in the world. You have a different unique perception is all, just like everyone else.

You are awesome. Never forget it.

Sorry I know you asked for my opinion.

You need to get you some of this then.

Hahahah that's a funny comic! Sorry for the late response, I've been kind of biz in this cray world. >.<

From this day forward I will try to recapture my innocence.

First step, act like a precocious child and ask strangers where babies come from.

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The verdict is still out on that one...

Real pandas only have short tails! Blasphemy!

No probs, guy developed a chip on his shoulder with me straight out of the box in an earlier thread, then just kept digging when he found himself in that particular hole. I've had him off again, on again ignore wise for a bit and decided today it was for keeps.

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That depends on whether I can imagine them like this or not?

More than likely.....yes....that is sad. Sad panda.

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IDK if you can for a single post, other than just writing "NSFW" on the top then hard returning a couple of lines to give fair warning, which is what I had in mind.

Sorry for the lack of clarity.

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