drummergirlbk
Community Member
- MBTI
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w4
Do you have trouble spots?
I struggle with socializing as a whole. But I think that the problem isn't me but rather that people don't know how to engage in conversation at my level.
Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly?
Nope. Never have and probably never will. Socializing is one of my weaknesses.
Do you feel you bumble around?
It depends on where I am. If I have people around me that I can engage in meaningful conversation generally I dont. but otherwise I'm lost as far as socialization goes and find myself doing just that.
Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others?
I wrote a song about a year ago on this subject. I was at a point in my life where I was a completely different person with every crowd I was in, and it got to the point where I didn't know which one was the real me. After some time I began to realize that each of those supposed faces I wore was in actuality just a part of my complex personality. So in my own way I do both at the same time.
Do people catch that you are different??
Yes. In conversation with someone this is quite obvious. I have a passionate distaste for small talk and I can usually tell how someone is doing by their face so I don't bother asking something I already know the answer to. Plus if they aren't doing great I don't wanna hear a sob story about it cause unless it's something I have experience with or have a logical explanation or solution to, I have better things to do. So I often am perceived as unfriendly or anti-social when I would just rather discuss other things.
Do you feel like you fit in?
Uh, he'll to the no. But I don't mind cause I'm much more interesting to hang out with than most people, so I am perfectly happy keeping to myself.
Popular amongst the opposite sex??
I have more guy friends than girl friends, so the short answer is yes. But part of it is that I do a lot of things that are normally considered male-dominated. For example, I do martial arts, am a drummer, an economist, and am proficient in calculus. I'm also less emotional and am not overly "girly" so I get along with guys better anyway. But also I'm kind of a badass, and other girls don't "get" that about me.
I struggle with socializing as a whole. But I think that the problem isn't me but rather that people don't know how to engage in conversation at my level.
Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly?
Nope. Never have and probably never will. Socializing is one of my weaknesses.
Do you feel you bumble around?
It depends on where I am. If I have people around me that I can engage in meaningful conversation generally I dont. but otherwise I'm lost as far as socialization goes and find myself doing just that.
Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others?
I wrote a song about a year ago on this subject. I was at a point in my life where I was a completely different person with every crowd I was in, and it got to the point where I didn't know which one was the real me. After some time I began to realize that each of those supposed faces I wore was in actuality just a part of my complex personality. So in my own way I do both at the same time.
Do people catch that you are different??
Yes. In conversation with someone this is quite obvious. I have a passionate distaste for small talk and I can usually tell how someone is doing by their face so I don't bother asking something I already know the answer to. Plus if they aren't doing great I don't wanna hear a sob story about it cause unless it's something I have experience with or have a logical explanation or solution to, I have better things to do. So I often am perceived as unfriendly or anti-social when I would just rather discuss other things.
Do you feel like you fit in?
Uh, he'll to the no. But I don't mind cause I'm much more interesting to hang out with than most people, so I am perfectly happy keeping to myself.
Popular amongst the opposite sex??
I have more guy friends than girl friends, so the short answer is yes. But part of it is that I do a lot of things that are normally considered male-dominated. For example, I do martial arts, am a drummer, an economist, and am proficient in calculus. I'm also less emotional and am not overly "girly" so I get along with guys better anyway. But also I'm kind of a badass, and other girls don't "get" that about me.