[INFJ] Friends or something more?

[Daustus]

Overthinking to the extreme point of no action, communication. It's retreat inward. It's common for INFJS.

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You're in a introvert "Shy" off contest.

He's asked me out quite a few times and nothing happened

It's quite possible you're dating at his speed. Which is sloth speed. You prefer turtle.

Oh I beg your pardon.

LOL. When you use this properly I always have to reread it. I've never heard it used in the states where it doesn't have a passive aggressive tone.

 

[BlackHorse]

@Deleted member 16771 That's exactly what I'm doing... waiting.. But I'm not yet sure what to do if he doesn't write at all. Before he waited max 3 days, then he wrote me and asked me out.. And now he disappeard.

 

[Deleted member 16771]

You're in a introvert "Shy" off contest.

It's quite possible you're dating at his speed. Which is sloth speed. You prefer turtle.

Lmao

LOL. When you use this properly I always have to reread it. I've never heard it used in the states where it doesn't have a passive aggressive tone.

It would sort of sound like this. More informal.
https://voca.ro/keng71caH7i

 

[Deleted member 16771]

But I'm not yet sure what to do if he doesn't write at all.

You don't contact him at all.

 

[BlackHorse]

Overthinking to the extreme point of no action, communication. It's retreat inward. It's common for INFJS.

Yep that's me.. BUT i did ask him out!

 

[Daustus]

GOOD, just don't go straight in with the ball cupping

Sometimes a direct approach gets a direct response.

Spoiler: Not Appropriate

Never Underestimate a good whisper "I want you to fuck my brains out". Having been on the receiving end of this it does work. Although I'm not sure this is the best approach here lol

 

[BlackHorse]

You don't contact him at all.

Nice! Before you were like ''you should tell him, fuck this'' and now i shouldn't even write him

 

[Deleted member 16771]

Sometimes a direct approach gets a direct response.

Spoiler: Not Appropriate

Never Underestimate a good whisper "I want you to fuck my brains out". Having been on the receiving end of this it does work. Although I'm not sure this is the best approach here lol

Oh good plan!

Though I prefer a whisper in the ear of 'I want you inside me'. Goosebumps instant erection!

 

[Deleted member 16771]

Nice! Before you were like ''you should tell him, fuck this'' and now i shouldn't even write him

Did I say I was consistent, love!?

Either would be fine... Maybe I wasn't paying attention before

 

[BlackHorse]

Spoiler: Not Appropriate

Well I'm sure this works but i think he would get the wrong idea tho lol

 

[Deleted member 16771]

Well I'm sure this works but i think he would get the wrong idea tho lol

But isn't that the right idea from your perspective?

 

[BlackHorse]

Though I prefer a whisper in the ear of 'I want you inside me'. Goosebumps instant erection!

I like his whisper better

But isn't that the right idea from your perspective?

No .. only creating sexual tension isn't my plan.. maybe a bit

 

[Deleted member 16771]

No .. only creating sexual tension isn't my plan.. maybe a bit

You already have emotional intimacy, right? That won't evaporate with the introduction of sexual tension - on the contrary it's 'the thing' that will make this a romance and not simply a close friendship.

He's a man, after all. Let him know that you want his cock buried deep inside you, that you want your nipples rubbing against his chest, your skin on his skin, that you... &c. &c. ad infinitum.

 

[Deleted member 16771]

I like this idea. SEX IT UP!

 

[Daustus]

Well this escalated quickly. Nothing like starting 2020 off with a bang. Literally.

 

[Daustus]

I'm giggling to myself and really thinking you should just overreach the entire situation and send texts like "lets see that D!"

 

[Daustus]

Spoiler: Shameless

 

[BlackHorse]

You already have emotional intimacy, right?

Depends what exactly you mean by emotional intimacy?

As far as i understand it if you are friends with sexual tension you will eventually fall in love -> relationship.
If you're not sexually attracted to each other then you remain friends.
If you only have sexual tension you're ... idk, nothing
My weakness are tall guy because everyone is usually shorter so i have hard time focusing if i actually like someone.. yeah it's annoying.

 

[BlackHorse]

I'm giggling to myself and really thinking you should just overreach the entire situation and send texts like "lets see that D!"

LMAO i wonder what would be his response... question mark

 

[Deleted member 16771]

OK so we haven't heard from @BlackHorse in a good half hour, so I'm going to go ahead and assume that she took our advice and they're boning as we speak.