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- 4w5
That's a very bold misconception that you came to believe. The reality is the opposite - the less you compromise of what you are, the more attractive you become. The question is - do you really know yourself that good?
Well, nobody can ever really know who they are. Even then, I don't know myself that good as I'm only 19.
Thank you for the book reference. I'll look into it.
It kind of saddens me that you feel this way. I think all men have complex emotions, but aren't encouraged to make them known. And most men don't, out of fear of being ostracized for it. I wouldn't necessarily blame some women, or most women for this. If the majority of men we meet don't show us this side of their personalities, then how are we to know it exists?
And as far as compromising your identity, well, I disagree. And I'm not criticizing you. I was trying to encourage you. I really still think it's better to just be yourself. It makes you special. Don't you want to find someone who thinks you're special for what you really are, instead of what you've forced yourself to be to appease others? I'm not saying not to be constantly trying to find ways to improve yourself, because we all should do that. Just be yourself. Be yourself, be yourself, be yourself. It sucks sometimes, and it gets lonely, but it's so much more fulfilling to have the real you appreciated in the end.
The vast majority of the blame for creating these attitudes goes towards men. Men socialize other men to be this way. I wasn't saying that women cause men to be this way.
I don't even know what to say to the rest of what you said. I don't even know what a self is. What self are you talking about? The self you are given? The self you could be possibly? Or the self that you create?