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Butt pummel me nextI found the bunch of gay people! They were getting "butt pummelled" by Artemisia.
There are many gay men in my academic workplace.....about half, for a grand total of 9. I have noticed that eight of them dislike me a lot and spread malicious gossip about me (and others, whether male or female) and I wonder why. The only gay guy I get along with is married to another guy and is masculine in his conduct.
I have noticed that the more feminine gays tend to hate me in general. I wonder if it's because of my INFJ personality which values authenticity or the fact that they can't make me feel bad about myself as I see right through them. I've had similar problems with gay stylists and fashion people in the past. Maybe there is something in my personality that they don't like, but I would like to hear from other INFJs.
I have always supported gay rights btw so it has nothing to do with homophobia.
Do you realize you just asked about why "feminine" gay men treat you a certain way and then just told a gay person to essentially shut up because you want to hear an explanation from a straight person?
Getting along with one gay man who is "masculine" does not make you impartial towards homosexuals.
There are many gay men in my academic workplace.....about half, for a grand total of 9. I have noticed that eight of them dislike me a lot and spread malicious gossip about me (and others, whether male or female) and I wonder why. The only gay guy I get along with is married to another guy and is masculine in his conduct.
I have noticed that the more feminine gays tend to hate me in general. I wonder if it's because of my INFJ personality which values authenticity or the fact that they can't make me feel bad about myself as I see right through them. I've had similar problems with gay stylists and fashion people in the past. Maybe there is something in my personality that they don't like, but I would like to hear from other INFJs.
I have always supported gay rights btw so it has nothing to do with homophobia.
So just because you don't like what I said, I am now a liar? Suit yourself.....
If you can't answer the question why bother passing judgement on me?
And are you a statistician? Because 8 out of 9 is a big enough sample for a single workplace.
I asked straight INFJs to reply. The fact that you felt the need to reply to a question that was not addressed to you shows how insecure you are.
There are many gay men in my academic workplace.....about half, for a grand total of 9. I have noticed that eight of them dislike me a lot and spread malicious gossip about me (and others, whether male or female) and I wonder why. The only gay guy I get along with is married to another guy and is masculine in his conduct.
I have noticed that the more feminine gays tend to hate me in general. I wonder if it's because of my INFJ personality which values authenticity or the fact that they can't make me feel bad about myself as I see right through them. I've had similar problems with gay stylists and fashion people in the past. Maybe there is something in my personality that they don't like, but I would like to hear from other INFJs.
I have always supported gay rights btw so it has nothing to do with homophobia.
The older I get the more open minded I become.
Being gay and feminine seems to be correlated with malicious gossip behavior...
Apparently misogyny in the gay community is a thing: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thin...nity-needs-to-deal-with-its-misogyny-problem/
Before someone feels insulted and starts claiming that straight men can also be misogynists, that is besides the point of the OP. The fact is that I have witnessed this sort of behavior several times (the malicious gossip) to pay attention to patterns. And social scientists in my field are especially good at discerning patterns.
Femininity is also not the problem here. Being gay and feminine seems to be correlated with malicious gossip behavior, at least in my workplace and several other workplaces that have come to my attention. I rarely have a problem with other women and never had a problem with lesbians (whether butch or fem).
Apparently misogyny in the gay community is a thing: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thin...nity-needs-to-deal-with-its-misogyny-problem/
Before someone feels insulted and starts claiming that straight men can also be misogynists, that is besides the point of the OP. The fact is that I have witnessed this sort of behavior several times (the malicious gossip) to pay attention to patterns. And social scientists in my field are especially good at discerning patterns.
Femininity is also not the problem here. Being gay and feminine seems to be correlated with malicious gossip behavior, at least in my workplace and several other workplaces that have come to my attention. I rarely have a problem with other women and never had a problem with lesbians (whether butch or fem).