jupiterswoon
Permanent Fixture
- MBTI
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 3
My partner and I, as well as close friends have noticed that every time there is a conversation about anything, or a movie, or a topic of interest in general that I always interject and moralize whatever it is that is going on or that we are talking about. If its a movie dealing with race- I interject my personal experiences with race, if its about relationships or marriage or children I interject with my personal opinions and feelings and experiences. It has gotten to the point where my partner actively watches movies without me- just to avoid these interjections. Do you out there have problems with this? And if so, how do you deal or how have you dealt with it?
I tend to take any context as this form of having something to do with me, and interrelating it- perhaps because I see the interconnectedness. I tend to see these things as signs that are somehow related- and it tends to come off as narcissistic. I once told my boyfriend that all of our friends are aspects of ourselves- or that when he was working on a problem, I saw it mirrored in his friend. This is just one example...
I know there are some things that don't require my own moralization, but how do I curb these responses? I know I'm not the moral voice for everything, but I sure as damn act like I am. I'm just tired of watching people secretly roll their eyes.... I have been working on becoming more of a left brained thinker and using my objective reasoning, but whenever narrative stories come up I always take the role of the moralizer. How do I make it stop? Do you think it's just because I don't have anything else to talk about? And maybe I'm boring- so I just take one story about Bonobo monkeys and turn it into a whole speech on polygamist free radical mormons and the pros and cons of communal living, and the reality of monogamy and my personal experiences with my parents divorce, etc, etc... How do I make this stop before moralize everybody to death?
I tend to take any context as this form of having something to do with me, and interrelating it- perhaps because I see the interconnectedness. I tend to see these things as signs that are somehow related- and it tends to come off as narcissistic. I once told my boyfriend that all of our friends are aspects of ourselves- or that when he was working on a problem, I saw it mirrored in his friend. This is just one example...
I know there are some things that don't require my own moralization, but how do I curb these responses? I know I'm not the moral voice for everything, but I sure as damn act like I am. I'm just tired of watching people secretly roll their eyes.... I have been working on becoming more of a left brained thinker and using my objective reasoning, but whenever narrative stories come up I always take the role of the moralizer. How do I make it stop? Do you think it's just because I don't have anything else to talk about? And maybe I'm boring- so I just take one story about Bonobo monkeys and turn it into a whole speech on polygamist free radical mormons and the pros and cons of communal living, and the reality of monogamy and my personal experiences with my parents divorce, etc, etc... How do I make this stop before moralize everybody to death?