I Like Pure and Calm Guys/Innocent Romance

this thread screams asexuality...screams...why aren't people listening to me? give up. there's no hope in this thread this chick doesn't know what she's talking about (she doesn't know what it is and cannot accurately explain it, for clarification)
 
yepunsarang said:
Good point eric- i've always been aware of that and just to clarify I don't like babies LOL. The types I'm talking about are pure but they are self aware and know how to protect it... That alone is really attractive because it shows that they are strong, are sharp, and have a good sense of moral judgement. But the reason why I want to protect guys like that is because i'm the same way--- I know it's hard to live in this society if you are... I want to hold their hand and walk together if you know what I mean...
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What makes you think you can protect them?
 
yepunsarang said:
I want to hold their hand and walk together if you know what I mean...
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Yep, I totally know what you mean, and I've been experiencing that [for the first time] for the past eight months or so with my girlfriend. :smile: I just think that the word 'protect' normally has more of a one-sided connotation, as opposed to what you meant.
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It's really an interesting/fascinating thing to think about Yield... I think also being someone who has self-sustaining purity, I understand how weary it is to live in this world that can potentially be vulgar. Just by being with someone (like an S.O) who shares that purity is like a blissful relief. I think of this in terms of diffusion or osmosis---if you have this rare purity, it's so easy to have these "unpure" and stressing things seep into your world.

So by being there for this other pure person, sharing this special commonality, and supporting them, allows them to be themselves when they're around you. As a result you are, in a sense, giving them strength to continue being the way they are without changing.

Eric, you're so lucky!!!! I send out plenty of good wishes out to you guys... Yea, "protect" definitely has a context of one of two people looking over the other (and mostly pertains to you guys! haha). But being an INFJ and different, I think a perfect relationship involves two people protecting EACH OTHER. I've realized just recently that I fall in love when I meet someone who I admire intensely and think they have a beautiful essence. What love means to me is helping my S.O protect that lovely jewel that they have inside...
 
yepunsarang said:
It's really an interesting/fascinating thing to think about Yield... I think also being someone who has self-sustaining purity, I understand how weary it is to live in this world that can potentially be vulgar. Just by being with someone (like an S.O) who shares that purity is like a blissful relief. I think of this in terms of diffusion or osmosis---if you have this rare purity, it's so easy to have these "unpure" and stressing things seep into your world.

So by being there for this other pure person, sharing this special commonality, and supporting them, allows them to be themselves when they're around you. As a result you are, in a sense, giving them strength to continue being the way they are without changing.
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Yeah I see what you mean. But, what do you mean by purity? I can relate to how you say things "seep" into our world, trying to change or corrode us but... no one is pure or innocent. I do have a strong sense of ethics. I strive for integrity and honesty everyday. I wanna do the right thing and I know that is never the easy root. But am I pure? Are you saying INFJs are pure? You can be good willed or a good person but no one is pure. At least, not in the way I think you're putting it.
 
Mmm...this is a bit hard to explain I guess.
My roomate tells me this sometimes---how I seem less "human" than other people because I'm less in the world of sensuality, desire, the fleshy world. I cringe when people are vulgar, crude, or anything of the sort.

Sure, I totally understand---not everyone is perfectly innocent or pure (as in no one is all good). But there are just some people who are more so than others---their purity outweighing the impure to a point where they are generally seen as "pure." I mean, for example,yea, I am a very sensual person but in a different way...

Perhaps the best way to describe this is clarity of mind? A certain pureness to the way they think and the things that matter to them. It's not innocence or naiiveness...
 
yepunsarang said:
Mmm...this is a bit hard to explain I guess.
My roomate tells me this sometimes---how I seem less "human" than other people because I'm less in the world of sensuality, desire, the fleshy world. I cringe when people are vulgar, crude, or anything of the sort.
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That sounds like you are confusing two things. Being an intuitive and being adverse to vulgarity or reality is two different things.

yepunsarang said:
Perhaps the best way to describe this is clarity of mind? A certain pureness to the way they think and the things that matter to them. It's not innocence or naiiveness...
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Surely, you're talking about understanding? You feel you can understand an INFJ guy who is 'pure' in your opinion and basically give them that understanding that they don't have because they are different, minority temperament or whatever. But it's not just an INFJ that can understand an INFJ, so you certainly don't have the monopoly on that.
 
Okay okay slant, let's just say that I like guys who seem borderline asexual. I like it when they wouldn't want to kiss me at all, etc. Like the Joker. I LOVE the Joker.
 
Question: Is he (Jason Schwartzman ... or at least his talk show interview persona) an example of what you're referring to?


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Or do you mean something else?


DeadlyPacifist said:
Like the Joker. I LOVE the Joker.
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Wait ... what?
 
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That Jason Schwartzman is so adorable :sing: I'd answer yes -but he's not a model to follow or anything. Many variations out there
 
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I Like Pure and Calm Guys/Innocent Romance
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Yeah, you like to corrupt us. Gently, of course. (:
 
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Yield said:
That sounds like you are confusing two things. Being an intuitive and being adverse to vulgarity or reality is two different things.



Surely, you're talking about understanding? You feel you can understand an INFJ guy who is 'pure' in your opinion and basically give them that understanding that they don't have because they are different, minority temperament or whatever. But it's not just an INFJ that can understand an INFJ, so you certainly don't have the monopoly on that.
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Hahaha Yield, you're being a bit difficult here. lol. jk jk... In my explanation, I'm trying to express what I feel pertains to me. So naturally, it might not make sense to others and sure, what makes it personal is that things are mushed together. My intuition and my aversion mixed together make me appreciate pure guys. But I'm sure other people's reasons differ.

I know that there are limits to understanding---even within an INFJ and INFJ relationship because we're different people period. I also know that understanding is not limited to INFJs and surely not to me alone (hahaha). INFJs are also not the only pure people out there...so it pertains to every type for me. As of now, it pertains to a particular INTJ :D...It seems like you have a perception of me that screams, "I'm the only one who can understand, will understand, thus I should just have all the pure guys flocking to me."

I just know, however, that I can provide this for my S.O (mutually having purity is def. part of "understanding"---it's a part of many things).
 
yepunsarang said:
Hahaha Yield, you're being a bit difficult here. lol. jk jk... In my explanation, I'm trying to express what I feel pertains to me. So naturally, it might not make sense to others and sure, what makes it personal is that things are mushed together. My intuition and my aversion mixed together make me appreciate pure guys. But I'm sure other people's reasons differ.
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I'm not trying to be difficult, I just want to understand where you are coming from, because I find it interesting.
 
:) I love questions, especially when they make me think deeper...Ask away! I'll also drop in something for you---what's your take on this? Clearly, since you've been reading this thread and contributing, you have some say in it! :)
 
yepunsarang said:
:) I love questions, especially when they make me think deeper...Ask away! I'll also drop in something for you---what's your take on this? Clearly, since you've been reading this thread and contributing, you have some say in it! :)
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I think that's enough interrogation from me. What's my take on... which discussion? There's like 5 different topics... lol. I don't even know what this thread is about any more :rolleyes:
 
ahahahaha~ Well then, why don't we start from the beginning---the first reflective question put out by our lovely threadstarter? Do you have a particular affinity for or attraction to pure gals? Or perhaps not? :P
 
I think I know what the OP is talking about....I know a good number of guys like this. They aren't stupid, they see, they are capable, and they make good decisions. Pretty cool folks all in all.
 
yepunsarang said:
ahahahaha~ Well then, why don't we start from the beginning---the first reflective question put out by our lovely threadstarter? Do you have a particular affinity for or attraction to pure gals? Or perhaps not? :P
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Um... hell no. Lol. I like damaged people, who have a "forged in fire" idealism who are tough and strong about their, ironically, good willed and humanitarian ideals. It requires strength and toughness to be a good person, more so then anything else.
 
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