I thought you all might want an update ^_^.
Since I last posted I had the opportunity to see her dance in Swan Lake, met and ate dinner with her parents, and, tonight, got to sing with her (along with a lot of other people) for an album my church is putting out (I live in Nashville - there's a lot of creativity here and many of the songs we sing are original, so they record them every so often.)
Tonight was awesome! Beautiful singing. Anyway, I was going to ask her to dinner in person, but another guy, who I think likes her, was there. I thought about asking but figured it'd be more embarrassing for her.
A few minutes after I drove away I gave her a call.
Me: "Hey, I didn't want to embarrass you in front of David, but I'd love to take you to dinner this week."
Her: "Hm... I'm not sure, I'll have to check and let you know." (she is genuinely busy, so I didn't want there to be any doubt as to my intentions or hers)
Me: "Well, I don't want to make things awkward, but I'd really like to get to know you better; I think you're a spectacular girl."
Her: "*pause* I uh... I... Can I think about it and call you back?" *whispers something*
Me: "*laughs* of course you can. And hey, if you're not on the same page as me, I totally understand, no worries, I'd just love the opportunity to get to know you better."
Her: "I.. can I call you back?"
Me: "Of course you can. Call or text me. Whatever is fine. Well, I'll let you go. Have a great night!"
Her: "G'night."
*I hang up*
Well, she didn't see that coming haha. Could've gone a lot better - I think it's safe to say she's not particularly interested, or at least didn't think of me in that way. Honestly, it feels good to just have my intentions out there. I guess I can expect a lot of avoidance or an awkward turn-down text in the future.
Time to salvage the friendship!
EDIT: Woah! She actually called me back. She clarified that she wasn't good with talking on the phone while she was driving and asked if I meant a date. I let her know that if that's not she wanted then not to worry about it. She said that, because she's not sure how long she'll be here (with her dancing), she doesn't want to get in a relationship right now. However, she made it clear that she definitely wants to keep getting to know me. I thanked her for actually calling - for being so transparent - that it just confirms what I already thought of her. She thanked me for being transparent as well. We wished each other goodnight.
...and she's still coming on the hike!
I just feel better you guys. Now she knows, our friendship is intact. And heck, I might've planted an idea in her head that'll get her thinking about me (I guess I'm a hopeless optimist).
Good times INFJs. You're a lovely bunch. I've never known anyone handle such a delicate situation with such grace.
