arbygil
Passing through
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 9w1
I could say a lot, but I agree with much of what's been said already. To be honest, I've never dated anyone of my same cultural background...mostly because I haven't really grown up with my same cultural background. Even my parents were "weird" as far as their same cultures were concerned.
I have a preference to date outside my so-called culture, and I'd say I identify more with the European culture than I do the US culture. And I absolutely love traveling.
Trufax storytime: I had a fiance who happened to be White (I'm Black, if it really matters, BTW). Things were okay, until I started bugging him to tell his parents about us. We dated for two years and he never told his mother my race until he proposed (because he didn't think it was relevant).
Well, when she found out she hit the roof and he decided to choose his mother instead. Now, there's a whole lotta wrong in that anyway (and honestly? We wouldn't have gone the distance in the long run for other reasons). Still, that incident didn't change my heart. I still have a preference for certain cultures and I love mixing things up. The only thing I'd say is, if the two of you are getting serious, really talk about these things. They may not seem relevant now, but think about it: When you marry someone of a different culture, you're marrying that culture. Everything, good and for ill, about that culture. And your *own* culture may try to disown you because they see you as a "traitor" or some crap.
People always say "that's their problem" but you do have to be strong to recognize that their culture becomes *your* culture, and you may never be accepted by *either* culture again.
If you're ready for that, and you're comfortable with that, then I say you're ready to date and marry interculturally and "interracially." If you're not ready to potentially sacrifice your culture, then don't do it until you are.
But, if you're ready, I think it's the most beautiful, gorgeous, wonderful thing you could do - and you have the potential to teach and educate, and become a bridge to others.