Skarekrow
~~DEVIL~~
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Just want to give everyone a quick friendly reminder, that YOU are not your feelings or reactions.
For example, the chronic pain I feel daily creates anxiety when I should have none...if I let myself get lost in the anxiety I am missing the primary source of suffering and only seeing the secondary symptoms of it and worsening the anxiety by not addressing the true reason.
It’s amazing how much it can help to tell myself - this anxiety is caused by my pain.
It can cause a really great perspective change and nix the anxiety with the realization that it’s only a symptom of the pain and nothing more.
This can be the same for those with PTSD, depression, etc.
With suffering we tend to focus on the emotions and feelings pain or suffering create more than the actual source.
Many times, because that source is out of one’s control, or at least that is their perception.
I find it personally helpful to remind myself when my thoughts start to get amped up about nothing...not to sit in the anxiety...to realize it as a signal, as a physical and neurochemical reaction to the primary stressor.
It depersonalizes it and thus takes away it’s fuel source somewhat.
Much love and good luck!
The first thing is to learn to distinguish between primary and secondary suffering.
Primary suffering is any unpleasant physical sensations you may experience as a consequence of illness, injury, fatigue etc.
You may not be able to do anything about this level of suffering and the task is to accept it and make peace with it as best you can.
Secondary suffering is the human anguish we all experience as a reaction to primary suffering: feelings like anger, fear, depression, anxiety and despair that we instinctively pile on top of any unpleasant sensation or event in a dense web of reactivity.
With mindfulness, or awareness, we can learn to modify and reduce these experiences of secondary suffering.
This can greatly improve our quality of life, even if the primary suffering remains unchanged, or even worsens.
For example, the chronic pain I feel daily creates anxiety when I should have none...if I let myself get lost in the anxiety I am missing the primary source of suffering and only seeing the secondary symptoms of it and worsening the anxiety by not addressing the true reason.
It’s amazing how much it can help to tell myself - this anxiety is caused by my pain.
It can cause a really great perspective change and nix the anxiety with the realization that it’s only a symptom of the pain and nothing more.
This can be the same for those with PTSD, depression, etc.
With suffering we tend to focus on the emotions and feelings pain or suffering create more than the actual source.
Many times, because that source is out of one’s control, or at least that is their perception.
I find it personally helpful to remind myself when my thoughts start to get amped up about nothing...not to sit in the anxiety...to realize it as a signal, as a physical and neurochemical reaction to the primary stressor.
It depersonalizes it and thus takes away it’s fuel source somewhat.
Much love and good luck!
Primary and secondary suffering
The first thing is to learn to distinguish between primary and secondary suffering.
Primary suffering is any unpleasant physical sensations you may experience as a consequence of illness, injury, fatigue etc.
You may not be able to do anything about this level of suffering and the task is to accept it and make peace with it as best you can.
Secondary suffering is the human anguish we all experience as a reaction to primary suffering: feelings like anger, fear, depression, anxiety and despair that we instinctively pile on top of any unpleasant sensation or event in a dense web of reactivity.
With mindfulness, or awareness, we can learn to modify and reduce these experiences of secondary suffering.
This can greatly improve our quality of life, even if the primary suffering remains unchanged, or even worsens.
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