- Feb 10, 2022
Sorry I posted the other response in the wrong reply area. Something weird though, I'm still unsure of how I was in the wrong for questioning her on what she admitted was a complete lie in the first place. In one fail swoop I'm a child molester, predator, neurotic, and overall need to commit suicide?? Lol
They allowed me to do it so it's not on me.
The last question from me was...
Definitely a key marker and ideology of a textbook narcissist.
Sadly, you provided them with exactly what they wanted by engaging with them in this way.
Narcissistic supply can and will be obtained through both positive and negative means.
You may feel as though you've won something here, by getting a reaction.
But the reality is, they still got their drama supply.
Nobody really likes being called out/shamed publicly, narc or not.
The difference is that narcs make no attempt to restore anything, unless it serves to gain them more supply.
So you engaged a narcissist, suggested everyone could see them, and did so without body armor and a class 5 blaster.
And yet, you live still.
Their psychology is resistant to introspection, whether of the grandiose or fearful prrsentation. As was said, avoid them.
They are in a kind of hell, and doing the best they know how. That said, my charity ends when they look at me and see a feed bag. Fuck that.
Take Care of Yourself,
I figure if the general consensus here is that no attention=no supply, I think it preemptively combats their ability to do that once people see what who they are. I'm on the same page as most here I just have a different approach as an individual versus another individual. There's more than one way to skin a cat kind of thing? Assuming I'm an argumentative pos who seeks to entertain themselves by arguing via a backhanded compliment or suggesting I'm wrong because I don't handle them the exact same way another individual chooses to isn't wrong. Plus if asking questions is the same as arguing then idk. What's the difference if I'm supposedly arguing on the internet versus another who indirectly shames another for not handling a situation the exact way they would themselves? As if to suggest being an individual is wrong..
I would like to say in my experience they don't generally come back once they are read. At least it hasn't happened to me yet. So in a roundabout way that cuts off their supply at least from me. I guess I don't mind one interaction I know I can handle if that deters them from ever coming back around. They will unfortunately manage to get it from another, this I know.
I wasn't arguing...
Forget I posted that, whatever.
In a way, it's rather like we treat large, potentially dangerous animals in the wild if we respect them.
Or maybe like a minute into this?When you see a narcissist in the wild, raise your arms to look bigger and make loud noises. Do not turn your back on the narcissist and do not run. When traveling in areas where narcissists live, wear bells or sing as you walk to scare them away unless you're in grizzly narcissist territory, then those methods are ineffective.