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i think that in some fairly valid ways it could be said that the archetypal heterosexist "dream" at least in this predominantly english-speaking "western" type culture which many of us have a stake involves a progression through romantic love with an individual of the opposite sex, to a shared lifestyle involving certain elements typically including financial cooperation, ongoing sexual interactions resulting to some degree in sexual reproduction, and the raising of offspring. this seems to be a fairly stable and change-resistant set of notions into which many young people are successfully systemically inducted through a whole interconnected set of frameworks that operate at a societal level such as popular media, prevailing legal sanction, whatever.
perhaps this range of circumstances has come into play purely through historical patterning with no genuine claim to general human wellbeing or development apart from for whatever reason has "worked" on average thus far. but allowing for that, i'm interested as to whether there is some sort of comparably generalisable asexual archetype somehow existing in some apprehensible form out there - some idea of what constitutes fulfilment for a person based on their asexual identification or way of seeing themselves. if the young heterosexual dreams of becoming married and raising a family, what is the dream of the young asexual person? is it a romantic type dream, or a career dream, or some other kind of focus for self-development or drive or just movement through the human life cycle?
i recognise that this may be a very silly question, but i definitely do not intend any offence by it, i'm just very curious about differing ideas and opinions about this, especially from asexual people who may be on the forum, or from people who might otherwise feel insights into these issues.
thanks!,
perhaps this range of circumstances has come into play purely through historical patterning with no genuine claim to general human wellbeing or development apart from for whatever reason has "worked" on average thus far. but allowing for that, i'm interested as to whether there is some sort of comparably generalisable asexual archetype somehow existing in some apprehensible form out there - some idea of what constitutes fulfilment for a person based on their asexual identification or way of seeing themselves. if the young heterosexual dreams of becoming married and raising a family, what is the dream of the young asexual person? is it a romantic type dream, or a career dream, or some other kind of focus for self-development or drive or just movement through the human life cycle?
i recognise that this may be a very silly question, but i definitely do not intend any offence by it, i'm just very curious about differing ideas and opinions about this, especially from asexual people who may be on the forum, or from people who might otherwise feel insights into these issues.
thanks!,