Normally quiet and reserved, maybe even aloof or cold, when an INFJ decides that someone is worthy of seeing all of them the intensity of what lies below their exterior can blow away even the most steadfast of individuals. I like to call this "the INFJ storm".
Does anyone recognize this and relate? I've often decided someone is worthy and stopped holding back, and then when I show them who I really am they get frightened by my intensity and start backing off. Or at the very least they're pretty stunned for a while.
I'd also like to hear from the non-INFJs if they've been on the receiving end and what that was like.
On good days I want to stop holding back all the time. You know, separate the wheat from the chaff? But then I realize there'd be precious few people left if I did that. :tongue:The intensity, yes, definitely. I honestly think that I scare the hell out of most people when I do that. And that's exactly why I do hold back, most of the time. It seems easier that way.
Yea me too...
when I was small, I knew others didn't feel anything like I felt because of the way they behaved.
Yet, I could feel other people's pain, and it was (and still is) very rejecting when others could not (cannot still) feel mine too and give me what I need to feel safe and secure with them.
On good days I want to stop holding back all the time. You know, separate the wheat from the chaff? But then I realize there'd be precious few people left if I did that. :tongue:
Normally quiet and reserved, maybe even aloof or cold, when an INFJ decides that someone is worthy of seeing all of them the intensity of what lies below their exterior can blow away even the most steadfast of individuals. I like to call this "the INFJ storm".
Does anyone recognize this and relate? I've often decided someone is worthy and stopped holding back, and then when I show them who I really am they get frightened by my intensity and start backing off. Or at the very least they're pretty stunned for a while.
I'd also like to hear from the non-INFJs if they've been on the receiving end and what that was like.