The Most Annoying Thing About INTP'S

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lol my brother is an INTP, I don't really have anything against them, obviously there may be some that don't have personalities that are as well developed, but it's like that with every type. They're probably the most intelligent out of all the types and have an extremely impressive command of language. If I had to point one thing out though, it might be their occasional insensitivity but I mean that's just how they are. Same way the Sensing function isn't as well developed for INFJ's.
 
Faltizan said:
lol my brother is an INTP, I don't really have anything against them, obviously there may be some that don't have personalities that are as well developed, but it's like that with every type. They're probably the most intelligent out of all the types and have an extremely impressive command of language. If I had to point one thing out though, it might be their occasional insensitivity but I mean that's just how they are. Same way the Sensing function isn't as well developed for INFJ's.
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I've been working on that one for a while now

There is such a thing as being too honest
 
My best friend is INTP. He definitely has passive-aggressive tendencies. Instead of saying "no", he doesn't answer the phone, for days or months occasionally. And that's something I would never do, because of my Fe streaming "you need to be nice to people" or "never leave a friend". So, I agree with the general insensitivity. Best brain I've ever met, anyway (and I find it really fascinating).
 
I'm friends with a lot of INTP's and they have a tendency to act like shitty bipolar girlfriends at their worst....
 
I'm not familiar with INTPs. I've really only known two.

My INTP rarely "feels like" answering my messages, even though he insists that I answer his calls. It's not really worth my effort to be frustrated over him. He'll call extensively when he wants to hang out and wonders why I haven't been hanging out with him. Well, it's because it feels so shitty to deal with someone who treats you like you're not important enough to respond to when they don't "feel like it" and it happens all the time and then complains when you don't answer them instantly.

I have another friend who seems like he's INTP. He's more mature than the first example. We've had a good time talking and laughing about intellectual things, but it seems like there's always a tension around him, because he gets very intense around intellectual things. I'm always a little wary around him.
 
The fact that I don't understand what little, pushed-into-the-corner "feeling side" they have, and neither do they...
 
knight in battle said:
My INTP rarely "feels like" answering my messages, even though he insists that I answer his calls. It's not really worth my effort to be frustrated over him. He'll call extensively when he wants to hang out and wonders why I haven't been hanging out with him. Well, it's because it feels so shitty to deal with someone who treats you like you're not important enough to respond to when they don't "feel like it" and it happens all the time and then complains when you don't answer them instantly.
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Oooo...I've so done this. Not really in a while, probably not since high school. But I distinctly remember some friendship spats that occurred due to this very thing. I didn't see at the time how I was acting was being perceived, or why it was a problem.

I don't know that I've really changed though as much as now I just expect everyone to also ignore me if I've been ignoring them.

Yeah...I don't have very many friends. Sustaining relationships has always been a shortcoming of mine.
 
I guess we forget that most people need constant ongoing contact to consider us close friends

We still luvs u. Just in our heads thats all
 
knight in battle said:
I guess the relationships that feel obligatory probably aren't worth keeping. :wink:
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I haven't really had many relationships that felt "obligatory" other than family relationships.

I actually am not very interested in relationships in general to begin with, which I think is the "problem". It isn't really an actual problem for me, since I like being left alone. In the past I have inadvertently given people the impression that I was interested in a friendship after a few interactions, which I then sort of just left to gather dust after my curiosity left. Not intentionally, I just didn't even think about it. Maintaining bonds is not a priority of mine, unless the person in question is very important to me. No one currently claims that spot in my heart other than my immediate family, IE husband and my son. I care about quite a few other people and I still consider them friends, but I do not go out of my way to stay in contact with them. My "best friend" who I have known since 6th grade and I barely talk to one another. I care about her a lot, but I still don't think to message her for chit chat all that often. The interest required for me to want to put the effort into keeping a relationship going takes quite a bit of closeness, which isn't cultivated all that easily with me. I don't really feel any urges or needs to have much interaction and am perfectly satisfied with my own thoughts the majority of the time and find most relationships to be more of a drain than anything.

...In the spirit of the thread, I have to admit I sometimes find this trait about myself rather annoying, because I find a great many people irritating. Just interacting with them without appearing obviously put out by the constant emotional catering is extremely draining. Big source of disgruntlement. Because at the same time, while they bother me, I don't like making them feel bad. It isn't like they can help it, they're just being themselves. I don't like being a source of discomfort or upset for anyone.

Basically I feel like an asshole a lot, like I should be able to handle it and have more patience for people. Which honestly, I should.

TL;DR - relationships, BLAH.

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EDIT- Hahaha... I sound like the hugest grinchypants in the world.

I kind of am though. :[
 
I would rather talk with a bunch of strangers about deep philosophical stuff on here than talk to people I have known for 20+ years on facebook

If I knew people like you guys irl. I would socialise with them
 
Jill Hives said:
...In the spirit of the thread, I have to admit I sometimes find this trait about myself rather annoying, because I find a great many people irritating. Just interacting with them without appearing obviously put out by the constant emotional catering is extremely draining. Big source of disgruntlement. Because at the same time, while they bother me, I don't like making them feel bad. It isn't like they can help it, they're just being themselves. I don't like being a source of discomfort or upset for anyone.

Basically I feel like an asshole a lot, like I should be able to handle it and have more patience for people. Which honestly, I should.

TL;DR - relationships, BLAH.

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EDIT- Hahaha... I sound like the hugest grinchypants in the world.

I kind of am though. :[
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:lol: I actually think that maintaining some relationships are a drain. And I think some relationships are bordering on slightly draining. If I cared just a little less than I do about them, I'd just quit bothering to maintain contact with them.
When I think about it, what my INTP does is sometimes what I might want to do or actually do to people. I haven't talked to my recent INFJ for ages, for instance. I didn't want to be mean - I just think that some of our basic assumptions about life are different enough so that even our conversations aren't meaningful, even if they are completely considerate, polite, and warm. So yes, it is draining to maintain a regular interaction with him, for that reason.

I do have a breaking point of when a relationship becomes too draining to maintain.
 
Poetic Justice said:
I guess we forget that most people need constant ongoing contact to consider us close friends

We still luvs u. Just in our heads thats all
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Exactly. Ongoing contact is what I need in most cases, and I usually prefer a similar level and frequency of contact as the way it started. (People do move on, of course, and that is understandable.) Maybe for some people, I don't "need" as much ongoing contact, because we don't feel the need to be in as frequent contact as with closer friends.

Maybe that's the thing that annoys other people about me as well: I'm busy in my head or emotions or in my closer relationships, that I don't contact them. Then, again, the reason why I don't contact them as much is because there are issues of communication or differences that need to be resolved.
 
You never stay on topic. Whenever I'm in a discussion with an INTP, they tend to go off on tangents. I often feel we're having two different conversations.

It also annoys me when INTPs can't come to a decision. This is more of a P thing, though. I never go shopping with XXXPs. Either they take forever to decide or they choose impulsively and want to leave when I've barely looked around.

Though I've never thought about it, I agree with immature INTPs acting in a passive aggressive manner.
 
I'm married to an INTP and I posted some things about that on another forum. I'll cut and paste for you.

In the thread "INFJs: Which type do you think is your ideal romantic match?"
At this point 28 votes: none for S, all for N. Interesting. I voted INTP as I'm happily married to one (well, 95% of the time happy). We love sharing ideas and analysing situations together, sometimes joyfully complaining about the stupidity of others. I stimulate his inferior Fe and he stimulates my inferior Se. We've both grown so much! He's also of great help when I'm stuck in a Ni-Ti loop. He just snaps me out of it with his Ti-Ne saying: "You should do B because it's best." This might even result in me saying: "No, I'm doing A, because I can now see that that's the best thing to do, because of D and F, thank you for helping me with that." He forces my Ni to see things clearly and make a decision. Only things that I sometimes find annoying are: his absolute unromantic nature, his undecisive P saying "I don't want to choose yet, I want to keep my options open...", his complete lack of structure in the visible world (it's all in his head, I don't know how he does that!) and every now and then him saying "Why are you nagging on about this when there's clearly not a real problem", which is our Ti & Fe clashing. Apart from that: I love him to bits.
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In the thread: "Do any of you INTPs behave like ISFPs when you are under stress?" (question asked by an INFJ)
I'm an INFJ like the OP and am married to an INTP. I think it's important to look at the complete picture here, so not only whether the INTP is acting like an ISFP, but also the way the INFJ experiences this behaviour. IMHO a few things are going on during such a conflict:
++ A conflict between the F of the INFJ and the T of the INTP. The INFJ displays all sorts of complex emotions and apparently the INTP has done something 'wrong'. Then the INTP starts to frantically use his T & N to make something logical and rational of the feelings of the INFJ. Why exactly is she feeling this or that and is it a logical response to this or that situation? If not, maybe I'm seeing things incorrectly? So what is going on here and why is she acting so irrational? What am I missing? And so on, and so on. The INTP is looking for clues and validation to pin-point the logical structure of the conflict. Which is almost impossible when your dealing with complex feelings. This confuses INTP (thus silence) and sometimes irritates INTP (thus lashing out when being pushed too much).
++ A conflict between J and P. INFJ wants a resolution NOW! Decisions, conclusions, progress, something. INTP wants to ponder on things, needs more time to think things over. An impatient INFJ will push the INTP, which makes the situation worse.
++ Both partners might start 'looping'. INFJ will Ni-Ti loop, blurting out why her feelings are completely logical & rational (confusing INTP's superior T even more). INTP will Ti-Si loop, making him feel like there's absolutely nothing he can do right and making him search for weird scapegoats. "All I'll say will make things worse, so I better check out and it was somebody/something else's fault anyway."
My two cents.
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It's not a straight answer to your question, but these to quotes sum up all the annoyances I feel about INTP ;p
 
On the internet they make it hard for INTJs to learn about themselves, but easier for INTJs to learn about INTP theories about INTJs.

I find that endlessly annoying.
 
Stupidity.

When it comes to anything "intellectual", intp's seem to have been trapped into witchs circles due only seeking pleasure instead of results from their contemplations, and then their total arrogant inability to accept truth when ive proven them wrong.

That irrational pride seems to stop them from ever understanding anything which isnt a widely spred topic of thought.

Well, you werent asking for flowers.

And yet intps claim to be the ice breakers, more like garbage trucks to me. (based on countless experiences at intpcentral)

oh, and not to mention stereotyping and prejudice which go totally off the target on me.
 
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