Hello
@Sandie33 , it's been a while, hope all is well.
I'm back for Fe, as I announced v.v
I only have one question(well, few similar ones) about the matter (since I read about this Fe in theory, but I still cannot identify it clearly in my fuctioning, and I thus need rl examples), and that is: how do you use Fe? What are the most satisfying things you do with it/you accomplish with it? Do you have any examples?
Hi
@Vienna how are you? Things here are well and slowly getting back to normal.
The Fe for me in real life? "How you experience it and how useful it is for you depends on how well it is developed and that depends on mostly your age." This quote is very true for me. Life experience has strengthened my Fe. Since it is focused in the ecternal world, humanity and kindness is its forte. From my own experiences I have found that when others around me are happy and their needs met I'm personally satisfied. Please don't confuse that with 'I'm happy', as that it two entirely different "feelings". I spend an enormous amount of time and energy volunteering in my community. My focus tends to be on the collective whole as opposed to self. Selfless, not selfish.
"When people with dominant Fe go to make a decision, the first decision criteria they use is values rather than objective facts. For extraverted feeling these values are more cultural values and values relating to human kind as a whole, rather than personal values which is what introverted feeling (Fi) is about.
Thus people with dominant Fe will first consider the impact a decision may have on the greater good, and the people around them. They do this instinctively."
Bare with me as I try to put this into verbiage. My personal decisions are not based on others' input or opinion. I have a deep sense of grounding and value based sense of self. The part about how my decisions and their effect on others is truly instinctual. I have an uncanny knowingness of what the other person (s) may need. That diddy about an INFJ knowing what the other person wants or needs often before that person does is very true--but, only if you observe it. I've always put others ahead of myself and learned with maturity not to sacrifice myself, (martyrdom), in my efforts to assist another. When I was younger I felt like the proverbial 'doormat' because much of my efforts for others were not returned back to me. That's Fi speak--what about me, how does this give me a reward...Selfishness to some. Once I realized that I needed to toss my personal expectations of the outcome and accept that the person/people I am assisting are doing the best they can in the experience, that is when Fe became more comfortable and I gained much satisfaction (happiness
) from my efforts. Necause of this my decision making process became more refined, using the "good choice, bad choice, no choice at all" criteria resulted in my making wiser decisions for myself and the others involved.
As for examples, I have a bloggy-like thread called Blogging For Exercise. I have written of many examples of Fe in action, though they don't say so, it is implied within the story
. You could go in there and read.
I, like anyone, struggle with understanding myself and others, however, I do have a broad grasp of me, myself and I. It has taken much selfwork to get here. To understand that most my energy cones from retrospection, yet some comes from being around people and seeing/helping them overcome an obstacle of some sort. I believe, partly because of my being Introvert dominant, yet extroverted at times, I don't feel the need for outer acceptance, (I am quite independent, almost equal on Ni and Ne), before making a decision, only a goal result of outer harmony from others and knowing that the decision is beneficial to all. What happens when I don't meet this goal? It saddens me, but I move on looking for the benefit of the experience even when it goes bad. A rule I remember is that people are not inherently bad, however they're behaviors are at times, they can't change their personality, but they can change their behavior
