@doppy just FYI- no criticism here, I understand loving a place and getting insta- ruffled when someone pokes at it. It happens- but just for orientation as a newer person,
@Wyote is one of the most genuinely kind personas on here, he’s actually a rather inspiring individual if you take some time. He reminds me of Luke Skywalker with a little kink thrown in for entertainment. I recommend you take the time, you won’t be sorry.
@Reason noticed me struggling as a newbie with how this placed worked and was the first- and within hours no less to extend a hand and help me get oriented. He can be a blunt instrument at times but he shoots straight and is willing to flex to accommodate other people’s reactions. You can’t ask an INTP to be fluffy with you. We have fluffiness, but we can be kinda lazy deploying the effort once we have gotten comfortable in a space. You’re supposed to know it’s pure observation, without malice. That’s one reason we avoid new people bc Jesus Christ- the effort toward orientation. Please forgive lack of concision, my point- neither of these guys are ones that will hold grudge or should you be weary of.
I wish these threads weren’t so contentious. I remember an America where being a Republican or Democrat was a funny thing to rib your buddies about. It wasn’t a character assessment. It wasn’t a forced Xenophobia about the other half of your country. I remember a close friend of mine, also a veteran saying to me last year, “How can you call yourself a patriot when you hate the president?” I said “I can hate one man easily and still love my country deeply, what I don’t understand is how we have all decided we are still patriotic while hating half of the country and hoping they are pushed down to intact an uncomfortable version of our ideals onto them. I personally will not be ok if this election results in the “other half” spends the following 4 years feeling as horrible as I have for the last four.” When did we get comfortable with that?
It’s unrealistic and idealistic I guess to imagine a way back to where Americans would take personal responsibility for the stewardship of our society. When you slap your neighbor hard in the face you may feel great and powerful in the moment- but it’s your neighborhood- you just made the place you live shittier, how is that winning anything? The end to this nightmare lies within each of our better angels and remembering- we ALL live here with exactly ONE share of being an American. There is no “taking our country back” on either side.
I loathe trump with the force of a thousand suns but I flat refuse to hate the other people on the other side of the political divide. I try to understand as best I can their point and perspective, their fears. I try to keep in mind we have allowed the talking heads of the extreme media outlets to give us only the most flagrant sides on one argument. So much so that it is almost impossible to understand the “other” as anything but stupid, evil, and greedy. None of this is true, or at best none of the pictures we have been sold are complete. It is true however, that if we don’t resist the divide among us we will destroy ourselves and take the rest of the world down with us.