Why it sucks to be an INFJ

Lady Jolanda said:
Existential crises. :D
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Heh... it's funny you say that cause I had a mini episode a few minutes ago, while I was just out pumping gas. I was thinking about this forum minding my own business, and all of a sudden I was jerked out of my mind's eye and into the real world. I don't know what caused it, but I saw the gas pump, the store, the street, and in a sort of cinematic fashion like in the movies, my awareness just crept out and out until I was not me at a tiny gas station anymore, but I was an invisible speck on a blue and green ball floating in space with clouds and gravity and... I mean... I just felt so small and insignificant.

Does that count? Haha.
 
Ren said:
Depth, insight, influence, social skill. What's to lament?
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Lady Jolanda said:
Existential crises. :D
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Aneirin said:
it just happened at a bad time, and was very triggering. there is are lot of really bad things swirling around me. I come here as a refuge at times, like yesterday. . and I walked into a shit storm. It was not a good afternoon. But I must say that the support I received was incredible. . thank you all
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I guess there’s always the odd biting fly in the forest but that’s all they are. I’m letting the wind clear me out right now, though I’ve only been walking through a small wood. The trail’s really manky and I’ve not got the right shoes on so I left it and went through the trees - a lot of my life’s been like that, and all the better for it :D

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The gorse on the hills is already flowering :)

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John K said:
I guess there’s always the odd biting fly in the forest but that’s all they are. I’m letting the wind clear me out right now, though I’ve only been walking through a small wood. The trail’s really manky and I’ve not got the right shoes on so I left it and went through the trees - a lot of my life’s been like that, and all the better for it :D

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The gorse on the hills is already flowering :)

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16 planets!...16 planets!...there are not that many in our solar system I know. A journey of thought of 16 planets!

Each planet has an orbit that is defined by its ingredients...a solid path that the universe accepts and really dictated. There is a center (a common source) that guides us. An energy that is immense, but not ever approachable...an unknown but it is there. There are distinctions between these planets and the paths are all different, but my goodness it takes everyone of them to obtain the equilibrium needed to move on in the celestial balance of life. One no better than the other, and each beautiful in their own way. We have all taken the shrapnel of the universe and all accepted it....my goodness it has further defined us. 16 planets and all in harmony...balance...despite their differences. A gaze to the sky and a warmth of understanding covers us.
 
A gazillion ideas racing through my brain. Sheer compulsions to randomly write stories and ideas and then read through three different books simultaneously. I can literally feel the energy between two people or a group. I can literally sense when there is about to be a physical fight or if people have those sorts of intentions. Deceit is pathetically obvious to see among people. Excessive talking and conversational noise is like being in stormy seas. I just want people to shut up and stop talking. Others emotions can wash over me like a wave. Sometimes uncontrollably if I'm not careful. (I've gotten better at controlling this as I've gotten older.) It's like being a Betazoid (Star Trek for those in the know) and not knowing how to control it. It's not as bad now though as I've come to find with age I understand more and have more control. I understand things about myself that mom and dad couldn't explain. Things that I understand now that other people go through. That I'm not alone and many feel similar to me. That I'm ok.
 
Sidney said:
A gazillion ideas racing through my brain. Sheer compulsions to randomly write stories and ideas and then read through three different books simultaneously. I can literally feel the energy between two people or a group. I can literally sense when there is about to be a physical fight or if people have those sorts of intentions. Deceit is pathetically obvious to see among people. Excessive talking and conversational noise is like being in stormy seas. I just want people to shut up and stop talking. Others emotions can wash over me like a wave. Sometimes uncontrollably if I'm not careful. (I've gotten better at controlling this as I've gotten older.) It's like being a Betazoid (Star Trek for those in the know) and not knowing how to control it. It's not as bad now though as I've come to find with age I understand more and have more control. I understand things about myself that mom and dad couldn't explain. Things that I understand now that other people go through. That I'm not alone and many feel similar to me. That I'm ok.
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I actually really relate to this. Did you used to confuse those emotions for your own? Or you'd pick up on it, not really know the source but internalize it to try to make it your own just to make sense of it? You might be interested in this thread.

And welcome!
 
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Having a better idea of why people do not like aspects of me I cannot change was actually helpful even if it changes virtually nothing - with the exception of learning how to deal with it. I can understand why, and it makes sense. Better to be independent than constant whoring for other people's attention and approval.
 
Why does it suck to be a supposedly common type?
1) People subconsciously believe you don't deserve as much, at least in online communities, because you are understood or accepted in real life, compared to mysterious INFJs that are unique and special and broken.
2) People think they understand you. But the most common types are the most misunderstood. What do you know of ESTJs through type descriptions, as compared to INFJs? When you search threads, posts related to ESTJs, how many of them come up, as compared to an INFJ's? Think there's nothing much to an ESTJ, it's too simple. Well, you may be right, but has anyone thoroughly looked through and analysed their thought processes? Is an ESFP vain? I certainly don't think so. They know a lot.
3) Being human sucks. Circumstances sucks. How you deal with it sucks. Because some other supposedly common type deals with it seemingly effectively, it doesn't suck. Or because they brought it upon themselves, instead of being natural empaths.
4) No one's interested lol. You're just an ordinary human lol. ISTJ forum, anyone? Nah, hell nah. They are boring. Too boring. Go back to your office, ISTJ.
 
kyledge said:
Why does it suck to be a supposedly common type?
1) People subconsciously believe you don't deserve as much, at least in online communities, because you are understood or accepted in real life, compared to mysterious INFJs that are unique and special and broken.
2) People think they understand you. But the most common types are the most misunderstood. What do you know of ESTJs through type descriptions, as compared to INFJs? When you search threads, posts related to ESTJs, how many of them come up, as compared to an INFJ's? Think there's nothing much to an ESTJ, it's too simple. Well, you may be right, but has anyone thoroughly looked through and analysed their thought processes? Is an ESFP vain? I certainly don't think so. They know a lot.
3) Being human sucks. Circumstances sucks. How you deal with it sucks. Because some other supposedly common type deals with it seemingly effectively, it doesn't suck. Or because they brought it upon themselves, instead of being natural empaths.
4) No one's interested lol. You're just an ordinary human lol. ISTJ forum, anyone? Nah, hell nah. They are boring. Too boring. Go back to your office, ISTJ.
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I find that I actually really enjoy sensing types. Some of my favorite people are ESFJ, ESTP and ISTJ (I asked them to take a test online that's how I know their types). Not boring at all. But people do tend to focus on themselves and I also think most people are shit at typing others.
 
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acd said:
I find that I actually really enjoy sensing types. Some of my favorite people are ESFJ, ESTP and ISTJ (I asked them to take a test online that's how I know their types). Not boring at all. But people do tend to focus on themselves and I also think most people are shit at typing others.
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Which test?
 
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