For some people it is a matter of finding a spirituality (or a saint) that resonates with you. St Antony of the Desert is one of my favourites.
Withing the Catholic faith there are litterally hundreds of different types of spirituality. The Franciscans, following St Francis of Assisi emphasise a tender love for all creatures. The Dominicans, following St Dominic & St Thomas Aquinas emphasise a deeper knowledge and love of the truth by studying theology and all the world's philosophies. Others focus on self-denial, others on service to others, etc.