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I'm not emotionally naive enough to think that people cheat exclusively because they want a fuck, I just don't accept emotional needs as any more meaningful an excuse than needing sex. Engaging in a sexual act is a process with a lot of decisions involved, it doesn't go straight from having your hair admired to being in bed, there are a lot of things leading from one of those things to the other, which require active participation.
I'm fed up with all the talk about refraining from judging people and allowing other people their own realities. I'm sure a lot of people disagree with me, but I think there's a point at which people just have to suck it up and take responsibility for their behaviour by admitting they did a crappy thing and treated another person badly who unjustly suffered for it.
There's no necessary connection to fixing a relationship from this. If people want to fix the relationship and work on the relationship, that's fine. What is causative of cheating is a person who doesn't know how to appropriately negotiate and communicate, or a person who just does whatever they want to, not an inadequate needs satisfaction. And that's the problem of the person who cheats, not the wronged party.
I'm fed up with all the talk about refraining from judging people and allowing other people their own realities. I'm sure a lot of people disagree with me, but I think there's a point at which people just have to suck it up and take responsibility for their behaviour by admitting they did a crappy thing and treated another person badly who unjustly suffered for it.
There's no necessary connection to fixing a relationship from this. If people want to fix the relationship and work on the relationship, that's fine. What is causative of cheating is a person who doesn't know how to appropriately negotiate and communicate, or a person who just does whatever they want to, not an inadequate needs satisfaction. And that's the problem of the person who cheats, not the wronged party.