TK*
Community Member
- MBTI
- INFJ
I'm not going to preach to anyone who has cheated, nor am I making any kind of personal attack, I'm just going to state my opinion on the matter.
I started this thread because I thought that as INFJs we would be a lot more...I dunno...true to our beliefs than most types--that we wouldn't let something like lust or unhappiness sway our value systems. INFJs seem more principled, y'know? And I think all of us believe cheating on a monogamous partner is wrong...so it's somewhat disappointing to read that some of us here have cheated.
Perhaps I'm too idealistic.
At least in my world, I've seen cheating destroy families. I guess I'm so offended by it because my parents cheated on each other--remarried--and still cheat on their new spouses! I believe that once you have that in you to cheat on someone, you will ALWAYS be a cheater. I've yet to see someone who cheats, stop cheating. I would never date/marry someone who cheated on their past SOs because that person obviously doesn't know how to be monogamous. What chances do our relationship have if I'm with someone who can't be faithful?
Anyone else agree?
I started this thread because I thought that as INFJs we would be a lot more...I dunno...true to our beliefs than most types--that we wouldn't let something like lust or unhappiness sway our value systems. INFJs seem more principled, y'know? And I think all of us believe cheating on a monogamous partner is wrong...so it's somewhat disappointing to read that some of us here have cheated.
Perhaps I'm too idealistic.
At least in my world, I've seen cheating destroy families. I guess I'm so offended by it because my parents cheated on each other--remarried--and still cheat on their new spouses! I believe that once you have that in you to cheat on someone, you will ALWAYS be a cheater. I've yet to see someone who cheats, stop cheating. I would never date/marry someone who cheated on their past SOs because that person obviously doesn't know how to be monogamous. What chances do our relationship have if I'm with someone who can't be faithful?
Anyone else agree?