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It is not possible for everyone to adhere to one set of rules and dangerous ground to side with the dangerous. Each instance is better judged on it's own merits and it is undeniable that certain characteristics stand. Understanding this hidden curriculum can in some circumstances be the difference between life and death, in one form or another.
Don't you have a sister or mother as a filter? Empathy is key.
I'm surrounded by women!
I'll repeat what i said earlier:
I am against cat calling
There are some issues here though that i am flagging up
So in the 'why do women never make the first move' thread one of the stand out themes for me was how many women WANT men to make the first move
Ok so i think we can say that there is a greater expectation on men to make the first move
Whether this is a cultural thing or whether there is some biological reason for it is open to debate as far as i'm concerned
But basically the expectation is on men being the most assertive of the two sexes
Then guys are also kind of programmed by the mainstream media for example TV and movies to respect and look upto confident and assertive people; in fact some people have spoken about there being an 'extroverted ideal' in our society
So the ideal we are programmed to believe is to be outgoing, confident, go-get and even a bit aggressive
Increasingly women are being programmed to be these things as well
So we have women becoming more assertive, more aggressive and more go-get but at the same time they are leaving the burden of approaching people to guys
So the downside of the expectation being on men to approach women is that men will then do that and not every man that approaches a woman will be wanted
So arguably approaching strangers is a little too go-get in some peoples book!
But on the other hand we are living in a society where sex is in mens faces 24/7 everywhere you look. This is going to cause a lot of tensions because a lot of guys are going to feel sexually dissenfranchised
In a society where community has broken down they might not always have access to women in a more socially acceptable setting and they might have to pursue other avenues to meet people for example online dating or approaching strangers in pubs, clubs or even in the streets!
A further aspect i would add is the breakdown of the nuclear family and the loss of male role models for a lot of young men. In the past young men would be accustomed from a young age to walking down the street with their father and they would learn that you do not just call out or whistle at women
So i see a number of things at play here that is causing all sorts of problems and i think that both sexes are playing a part in that and are responsible for it
But going further i think both sexes are actually being affected by cultural forces that they are not entirely aware of
There's no point women lamenting male attention while women are busy sexualising our society...there's an element of hypocrisy there
Also there's no point women placing all the burden of approaching on men and then complaining when they get approached by guys they don't fancy
