Your points above are all legit. Lol, don't worry if you have certain preferences when it comes to physical looks. It's not really a bad thing.. it's just all attributed to physical attraction. Which is downright normal to all of us.. humans. The beauty of it all is that we can recognize that it's not only about physical looks.. that we are aware we aren't the superficial type of person; we tend to delve into the deeper sense of it all and able to recognize the "more important aspects" that one should really take into account especially when it comes to entering and being in committed relationships. Also, yes- we need to really be honest with ourselves; there is no denying the fact that we tend to get attracted more to a person who knows how to take care of himself than someone who isn't. I'm not speaking of vanity; more of expression of self-love and self-care of that person and in effect reflects how they look.. looking nice or presentable is enough to attract the right person.
Can you please let me know the "longer list" you are referring which this time doesn't talk about physical looks.. I want to know what it's like in a male perspective.
My self-image is not the best when it comes to attractiveness, physical touch, sensuality - all those things. It has taken me a few years to accept that I am a "normal person" who also have a sexuality. I still have some difficulties to admit it to myself, giving rise to a broken self-image in this matter. however, it has been getting better.
About that "longer list" (which also feels a bit prohibited*). My brother once told me you could look for specific qualities in a woman that you think would suit yourself, but that it's probably better to look for a woman who brings out qualities in yourself that you like.
I want to be able to think along with my girlfriend. I don't want her to think that it feels bad when I think too much, but she might even be ready to help me and lead me forward, deciding when it is time to stop thinking, and time to continue on a thought . Deep thoughts are so much a part of my personality that I do not believe that anyone could manage to live with me if she couldn't appreciate it somehow. Above all, I would never be able to appreciate the relationship if I constantly felt I had to conceal my thoughts in fear that she wasn't able to hear or wouldn't even understand what I'm talking about. Therefore intelligence is also a little too important for me. She does not have to be a super genius, but for both's sake, I think it would be best if we could talk in about the same level, to really get to know each other. I would also like to talk about feelings, perhaps more than I want to talk intellectualy actually. Or they are of equal importance!
Humor can be a big part of my personality. However, I can also have the tendency to be quite "dead" in my expression, but when I spend time with people who make me live up to my humorous mind, I enjoy myself best. It is difficult to determine what it is with these people that causes this, but I have some friends that is that way - Both boys and girls!
An important aspect is ethics and worldview. I've been with a girl before, and from what I felt to be the most difficult in the relationship, was that we stood on different ground when it came to how we see the world. It gets tough! How we think that children should be brought up? Is there a God? Is it important to care about others? etc. Such questions I asked myself, and still do, and I realize it doesn't work unless we have a common ground.
Another element that is important for me is that I need time for myself, or at least the time when I don't need to interact with others - I can still sit in the same room! It means that my wife will have to allow for this, but also that she sometimes needs to pull me out of my bunker, so I don't become isolated from the outside world. Alternatively, we get such a big family that I don't have to socialize with the world around me.
She should be nice, but to be able to speak up.
She should be strong, but humble.
Oh, she'll simply be a Christian! A smart Christian**, like me. That's the easiest way of putting it!
However, there is a risk that it'll be interpreted as something other than what I mean (I'm often afraid of misunderstandings).
*Prohibited. Am I using it correctly? Perhaps there is a more sutible word? [MENTION=3998]niffer[/MENTION], would this be a good idea to consult you on these issues?
** A smart Christian is in my view a person who does not necessarily vote "Christian" (non-Christian, it feels like) in political issues, but understands to see the world from multiple perspectives and choose critically based on what is actually the smartest. However, she is still such that she tries as best she can to live up to Christian ideals of loving, Christ-like, and so on. Gladly the spiritual bit too, otherwise there is a risk that we do not understand each other.
As well as, he can expect the same from me. 
I can say really helpful..