Understanding the INFJ Doorslam

I listen to people I care for and respect. I can dislike like rules and still want someone to feel respected. Disliking rules is a generalization. I like possibilities too so let’s see the positives from that position
 
Doorslamming is a bit disrespectful when it’s done out of misunderstandings and confusion without having conversation. Also allows them to avoid responsibility, too. And the door isn’t always locked. Most people say one thing and do another anyways. Or constantly change their mind.

You might not want to buy something today but that doesn’t mean you won’t at some other point and I should stop marketing to you. Is that disrespectful?

I’m sure you’ve bought something after you’ve said no before
 
ClevelandINTP said:
Doorslamming is a bit disrespectful when it’s done out of misunderstandings and confusion without having conversation
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As has been noted multiple times (without you absorbing it for some reason) doorslamming only occurs after multiple warnings/attempts/conversations

ClevelandINTP said:
You might not want to buy something today but that doesn’t mean you won’t at some other point and I should stop marketing to you.
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If you are equating relationships to business deals then you are quite lost
 
ClevelandINTP said:
Doorslamming is a bit disrespectful when it’s done out of misunderstandings and confusion without having conversation
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From what I've read, that is on your perception of things. You have an opportunity now, to respect the boundaries set by the other person, or keep pushing, in which case you may get the real reason why you've been shut out, but it will only keep you out. It won't get you back in.
 
Wyote said:
As has been noted multiple times (without you absorbing it for some reason) doorslamming only occurs after multiple warnings/attempts/conversations



If you are equating relationships to business deals then you are quite lost
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Sales is sales. Same principles apply. Human to human interaction exists and so do feelings. Relationship management is a huge thing these days
 
ClevelandINTP said:
Doorslamming is a bit disrespectful when it’s done out of misunderstandings and confusion without having conversation. Also allows them to avoid responsibility, too. And the door isn’t always locked. Most people say one thing and do another anyways. Or constantly change their mind.

You might not want to buy something today but that doesn’t mean you won’t at some other point and I should stop marketing to you. Is that disrespectful?

I’m sure you’ve bought something after you’ve said no before
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You may see it as disrespectful, but they still have the right to say no. They do not have to explain it until you feel you understand the no. No is just no. Done.

It is respectful to listen to their no.

You have the right to keep asking for the door to be reopened, but it will probably not help you be seen as someone who is understanding and willing to listen.
 
I also know I’ve reversed the doorslam before so let’s not act like all doorslams are equal and some can be reconsidered. But now you’re saying that’s being disrespectful. But if I didn’t re-engage it would have never been re-opened
 
ClevelandINTP said:
Sales is sales. Same principles apply. Human to human interaction exists and so do feelings. Relationship management is a huge thing these days
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This is all very vague and hyperbolic. If relationship management is "huge" in your life, you're doing relationships wrong.
 
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