What type is most attracted to INFJs ?

highlighter said:
if she knows who you are...
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On the serious side: please don't take it personal, but I'm not buying it. But hey, I'm just a grumpy fusspot.
 
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INFJ men are inexplicably sexy.. They understand the undercurrent of the conversation, and can drop into INFJ females "frequency".. ;) They are deep and thoughtful. They see the connections we INFJ females do.. the symbols and lessons in things. Never swim in shallow water ladies... There's nothing better than the deep end. :)
 
MistyWrites said:
INFJ men are inexplicably sexy.. They understand the undercurrent of the conversation, and can drop into INFJ females "frequency".. ;) They are deep and thoughtful. They see the connections we INFJ females do.. the symbols and lessons in things. Never swim in shallow water ladies... There's nothing better than the deep end. :)
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highlighter said:
on the positive not NTs thinkers dont really give off alot of emotions....esp INTJs....... INTPs and ENTPs give off either fun or corky emotions. this is good for an INFJ cause you dont have this absorbing the others emos which is SUPER refreshing in this SFJ world we live in....it will prob feel like heaven....basically its like being alone but with someone. but the problem is that as INFJs we just need something very deep and real. its all fun and games untill your in love, and the NT cant or wont express anything back.....either way its the same result....idk I want someone to care about my emotions and know when to the cash in the chips and ASK me for something. NTs will either abuse your giving nature or will never ask you for anything....which ts a type of devaluing.

OH another thing to be careful of.....

drip feeding truth.....
I have come to find NTs do this ALOT......everything is on a need too know basis they omit things because YOU did not as the correct question. This is lying......but they dont see it that way. All i know is that this is deal breaker its a lie and it hurts like hell.

P types to me are lots of fun but they are all over the place. they lack the LASER focus that INFJs have this could be good but could be really bad. I can see how its super annoying, the other issue is that P types could string you along for a LONG time...cause its all about what "could be" and they tend to just sit back and watch it unfold....meanwhile you will be hurting.
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..truth.. NT's will tell you that these omissions ate to protect YOU. What they don't know "won't hurt em".. even when you want the truth... they don't care... same experience with NT.
 
Professor Snep said:
On the serious side: please don't take it personal, but I'm not buying it. But hey, I'm just a grumpy fusspot.
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..Ahh maybe you haven't found your particular brand of INFJ 'alpha male mystique'
quite yet?
 
Maybe she can help you find your mystique? :0
 
highlighter said:
on the positive not NTs thinkers dont really give off alot of emotions....esp INTJs....... INTPs and ENTPs give off either fun or corky emotions. this is good for an INFJ cause you dont have this absorbing the others emos which is SUPER refreshing in this SFJ world we live in....it will prob feel like heaven....basically its like being alone but with someone. but the problem is that as INFJs we just need something very deep and real. its all fun and games untill your in love, and the NT cant or wont express anything back.....either way its the same result....idk I want someone to care about my emotions and know when to the cash in the chips and ASK me for something. NTs will either abuse your giving nature or will never ask you for anything....which ts a type of devaluing.

OH another thing to be careful of.....

drip feeding truth.....
I have come to find NTs do this ALOT......everything is on a need too know basis they omit things because YOU did not as the correct question. This is lying......but they dont see it that way. All i know is that this is deal breaker its a lie and it hurts like hell.

P types to me are lots of fun but they are all over the place. they lack the LASER focus that INFJs have this could be good but could be really bad. I can see how its super annoying, the other issue is that P types could string you along for a LONG time...cause its all about what "could be" and they tend to just sit back and watch it unfold....meanwhile you will be hurting.
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More useful deliberation. Thanks!
 
Satya said:
NTs definitely. Ambitious INFJs attract ENTJs and caring INFJs attract ENTPs.



I want an INTP so bad. I promise I will take care of it! I want one! I want one! :m079:
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Careful now..I have mine and I love him so. But oh the patience...it is a never ending pull him out of his shell..watch him scurry back in..pull him back out again..and so it go's. I love him so this struggle will continue till the end of time. I'm certain seeing as I love so hard. I could never let him go.
 
highlighter said:
Yeah INTP will do the same thing to you, bro.
so over all in this concept and sense there seems to be alot of INFJ guys around here... I think this will help. I am an older INFJ male, and will say that NTs in general will be drawn to you, just in general that is in friendship and in romance it just happens. the issue is that there not alot of NT women, but this maybe a good thing.

INFJ even the dudes want a soul mate. they want someone to love them like they would love. NTs....dont believe in that soulmate stuff. were all people nothing special about anyone and easily replaced if the NT logic suits it self. NTs are about rational "love", and thats honestly something INFJs think is cold. and it is. the reason ENTPs work best with INFJs is ENTP is the least cold of the rationals. but still man it aint about soul mates with them. NTPs will open up a world in the INFJ but if that NTP doesnt follow through (ntps dont really have follow through) than the INFJs world and love will be destroyed. I would say NTP are VERY VERY dangerous for INFJs in love. NTPS are somewhat careless about other peoples hearts and in the end the NTP truly does come first. if its logical than you are out......and its plain and simple. or worse it will be a "is this over" situation where its years of unfinished business.

Honestly I think INFJs should go with other NFs it just makes more sense, at least if you all break up/divorce you will both feel awful about hurting the other and there will be some empathy.

to the INFJ guys: dude if your young, its hard I know but TRUST me......you ARE what women want.... you just are showing the wrong things at the wrong time. Dudes if you think she likes you or if that Ni went off......YOU ARE RIGHT. dont second guess that you are right just go and ask her out or... TELL her to date you. I know that pretty alpha but trust me....those ENTJs guys are getting away with it! so just do it.

INFJ men have an alpha mystique BUT you need to understand that it is different. its not the standard Alpha male stuff....
and thats is why you flying under the radar.

look at it this way your regular alpha ST types are strong in practical ways they can lift shit. they can hunt, they can fix something.....all of this is SINGULAR.

YOU as aINFJ male.......dude you CAN SHAPE THE WORLD........... you can have hundreds of STs following you! you are a world shaper and world breaker if you are messed up.....YOU have more influence and are more powerful than any standard alpha male.....so dont let anyone fool you. there is nothing more Alpha Male than CONVICTION. and INFJ guys you are the KINGS of that.

one last note..

if you put an INFJ guy in a situation where ANY female type is with them for over a month. I am 98% sure that female will fall in love with that INFJ. if she knows who you are....she is in love.....
your distance is the only thing keeping her out of love.
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As a young male INFJ, that was one of the most motivating things I've ever read. Thank you.
 
Gust said:
As a young male INFJ, that was one of the most motivating things I've ever read. Thank you.
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Jeez we need an insightful piece like this for INFJ woman. Altho, I would bet in my experience anyway, that it would be pretty close to what was written except in female speak.
 
f034b383f920bb340baa22f37ef683cb.webp I'm forming an observation that I want to explore... there are lots of INTJ males on a site with INFJ women...

Hmmmmm....

I'm going to say I see a connection between INTJ being drawn to INFJ and the reverse. There are quite magnetic components between the two...
 
Shaqie said:
What type is the most attracted to INFJ's?

Well ... all of them ... if the INFJ plays his/her cards well ...
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That's what I was thinking while reading the thread. When an INFJ falls in love, its an exceptional relationship for any deserving personality type.

I've also found that an INFJ will enter into a relationship with certain types to help end an extended period of loneliness. The less than ideal mate will be treated with a lot of love and compassion.

This sill leaves the INFJ with feelings of guilt as they hold each other back from something greater.

They may even choose a mate that is abusive to compensate for this. They will still work hard to make it work, even accepting the abuse if it manafests.

Whether they are aware of this self destructive behavior, depends on the individual INSF.
 
I've dated many types..mostly those who I saw something amazing in. I really think my first love..my five year high school boy. Was an INFJ..he was just very young and unaware of how to handle his deep feelings. He just recently reached out to me. To ask for forgiveness. He quoted word for word conversations we had as teenagers. Come on a guy remembering verbatim, what you said to him 20 years ago. Wow mind blown.

Then came hell...my husband..malignant narcassitic scociopath...

Abuse, gaslighting, manipulation, cheating, physical abuse, I became a sheild for our children. He dooped me. And everyone else for that matter. The day he pulled his proverbial mask off will haunt me forever. Born unto one ( my father) I was a shield for my siblings. Trapped by another. I was KO'ed. I finally snapped out of it after ten years. Broke free took my babies and ran.

Not far enough. I broke in all sence of the word. I landed in a behavioral health unit. Diagnosed with extreem PTSD...Lord how will I ever forgive myself. When I fell, my children tumbled right into his lap. I'm on my way to Illinois. To battle this monster for custody. He has my three angels locked away behind a falsified protective order. He has cut everyone out of their lives including his own family. 'Cause they dared to challenge him and support me. He has moved a twenty-five year old girl in with him. Impregnated her. Is now touting her my children's mother!! Has a massive online smear campain going. All I care about is my children's well being. I'm stronger than I have ever been now.

I will fight..fight like I never have before. That will be a sight to see. It's not for me it's for my precious innocent ones. I swear I feel them, I know they are in pain. That alone will drive me till they are liberated from his reign of terror. Monsters are real. They are in the form of humans that is where true horror lies.


Tash said:
That's what I was thinking while reading the thread. When an INFJ falls in love, its an exceptional relationship for any deserving personality type.

I've also found that an INFJ will enter into a relationship with certain types to help end an extended period of loneliness. The less than ideal mate will be treated with a lot of love and compassion.

This sill leaves the INFJ with feelings of guilt as they hold each other back from something greater.

They may even choose a mate that is abusive to compensate for this. They will still work hard to make it work, even accepting the abuse if it manafests.

Whether they are aware of this self destructive behavior, depends on the individual INSF.
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Tash said:
That's what I was thinking while reading the thread. When an INFJ falls in love, its an exceptional relationship for any deserving personality type.

I've also found that an INFJ will enter into a relationship with certain types to help end an extended period of loneliness. The less than ideal mate will be treated with a lot of love and compassion.

This sill leaves the INFJ with feelings of guilt as they hold each other back from something greater.

They may even choose a mate that is abusive to compensate for this. They will still work hard to make it work, even accepting the abuse if it manafests.

Whether they are aware of this self destructive behavior, depends on the individual INFJ.
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