How we communicate is an analogy of how we view the self and our world.
Believing in the divinity and ultimate authority of Self, I don't believe in any kind of policing or external authority.
I do believe that self governance is the only ethical means on governance, however it is not as simple as that. We are human after all, with our foibles and vulnerabilities. Any society is more effected/affected/defined/substantiated/ created/preserved/reformed by culture and cultural norms and the need for connection, acceptance and understanding, than by rules, laws etc. Power and authority only exist where we collectively imbue it.
Self governance only works in an environment of mutual respect and shared values, the same way, the only way things can work in any intentional community.
I think the most important resource we have is our time and energy. Choose where you give your time and energy wisely, as this is the only true power we have. Use your time and energy intentionally, not reactively.
"no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" - a great lady once said.
If someone has a poor or deragotary opinion of you, ask yourself, is this person's opinion of the topic, or of my person, informed or relevant ? Is this person communicating with me with dignity and respect? Am I communicating with dignity and respect? What am I hoping to gain out of this interaction? Is it actually important and worth my time and energy?
The choice to not engage can be extremely powerful. There is a difference when people are genuinely trying to communicate with you, and when they are simply wanting some attention. Sometimes people are simply seeking to make their position feel safer by demeaning other people's positions. This has to do with issues such as self respect, self empowerment, and self worth. Any person that knows the true value of their worth will not feel the desire to belittle or mock their fellow humans.
It is important to be compassionate when communicating, especially when it is hardest. After all, all people are a mirror to you, to the Self. However, this compassion need always be balanced with self compassion. Put your Self first, always. Choose where you will give, engage, receive, share, develop, and be influenced. No one can take anything from you. And you are the highest authority on what is right and acceptable for you, what you deserve, and how you will choose to engage with the aspect of your Self that you have chosen to focus on
We know how important our values are through how vigilantly we practice them, by how often we 'give' them. Respect and dignity and freedom are extremely important to me, so it is up to me to give those things, regardless of what other people think. You are the only one that has to live with your Self, with your reality, look yourself in the mirror, get to sleep at night, and get yourself up in the morning. Only one opinion of Self is relevant or important or has the power to inform and define your life.
Put your Self, and your happiness first through exercising your power of choice. Everything else will fall into place. Put yourself first...and your environment and the people in your life will reflect the values you have chosen as worthwhile
Choosing to walk away from something clears more space in your life for something better and more suitable for you. Just keep walking towards what you want, or as they say (who the Fuck are they?) Keep your eyes on the ball. Who gives a shit what ball game other people are playing? Pay attention to your own life and what you want and always give what you value. Or try anyway, we can only try regardless of how often we have failed or how often the past and our insecurities rear their ugly head. It doesn't matter. If something is worth doing, it's worth doing, regardless of risks.
Sorry for getting preachy and carried away. I've typed this out on my phone which I hate doing lol but I can't see what I've already written or edit what I've written without the phone freezing, so i hope it is coherant
Any way, I hope you all have a brilliant wonderful blessed exciting peaceful happy day, because that us what you all deserve. Fuck everything else.