[ENFP] Does she like me? Do you guys ever take a week alone time from someone you love?

Pin said:
Hang in there man.

It's only a matter of time before you meet someone new for better or worse. Personally, it's hard not to treat the pursuit of relationships like a race sometimes. However, I'm more focused on my professional life. Also, all of my friends in relationships right now are struggling financially, professionally, or academically.

Observing my friends has taught me to focus on more reliable outcomes. When you eat protein and do calisthenics, your muscles contract and become more defined. When you study hard, you get scholarships and the chance to pursue the highest levels of education.

Do you have any impediments for meeting women in reality?
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Oh @Pin how do I become more like you? I wish I wish I wish I could just focus on my professional life and education!
 
April said:
Honestly. I do say all the time I am going straight to hell. :p
But in all sincerity, I hope that hell does not exist, and that we are reincarnated because that makes the most sense to me. Recycling of our energies... :)
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Wyote said:
Ritalin
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Honestly? Send me some then. I do need more focus on my short term goals. I am constantly focused on long term goals, but without focusing on the shorter term ones... I will NEVER get to the longer term ones! WHYYYYY?! Seriously. Ritalin. Adderall. Vyvanse.. I'll try it for a bit hahaha. (It is SO crazy that I have never tried any of these before... given the relationship I am in... )
 
April said:
Are you sure you're not INTJ... even @Deleted member 16771 was more understand and sensitive... and he IS INTJ...

Stop telling men to not be a pussy. That is just. UGH! Men have the right to feel like this and its people like you that make them uneasy about doing it. EW.
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Lol

@wiredandwound is just coming from a place of absolute cynicism, where it feels like nothing but a rigid adherence to a certain kind of 'masculinity' will secure the love of a woman. I understand. I get it.

He's probably been hurt by a woman or two, and has witnessed that their love for him is highly conditional, thus becoming terrified of showing any kind of 'weakness'.

What you're hearing is pure fear that women are ultimately callous and incapable of loving men. It's not a weird idea - it's all over the place with the 'red pill', &c.

Honestly, when I'm cynical, this is where I go, even though I try to fight it by being emotional and open with women.

Imagine being in love, but not allowed to express it in any way for fear of killing her attraction to you - this is the dilemma many men are in today, and it's fucking scary. Baseless or not. Don't dismiss that.

Now, other than that, your attitude sucks, @wiredandwound.
 
April said:
Honestly? Send me some then. I do need more focus on my short term goals. I am constantly focused on long term goals, but without focusing on the shorter term ones... I will NEVER get to the longer term ones! WHYYYYY?! Seriously. Ritalin. Adderall. Vyvanse.. I'll try it for a bit hahaha. (It is SO crazy that I have never tried any of these before... given the relationship I am in... )
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America is going through an opioid epidemic.
 
Deleted member 16771 said:
Lol

@wiredandwound is just coming from a place of absolute cynicism, where it feels like nothing but a rigid adherence to a certain kind of 'masculinity' will secure the love of a woman. I understand. I get it.

He's probably been hurt by a woman or two, and has witnessed that their love for him is highly conditional, thus becoming terrified of showing any kind of 'weakness'.

What you're hearing is pure fear that women are ultimately callous and incapable of loving men. It's not a weird idea - it's all over the place with the 'red pill', &c.

Honestly, when I'm cynical, this is where I go, even though I try to fight it by being emotional and open with women.

Imagine being in love, but not allowed to express it in any way for fear of killing her attraction to you - this is the dilemma many men are in today, and it's fucking scary. Baseless or not. Don't dismiss that.

Now, other than that, your attitude sucks, @wiredandwound.
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Well when you put it that way... aww. But! Yes, his attitude does suck! But thanks Hos, for helping me understand. Well, I don't really understand putting a label on all women because of a few or even a lot. I mean, there are many women out there would would even prefer their man to not be afraid of showing "weakness" and so on as you say. Idk.. maybe it's just me. But regardless, thank you again for helping me understand. <3
 
Deleted member 16771 said:
Lol

@wiredandwound is just coming from a place of absolute cynicism, where it feels like nothing but a rigid adherence to a certain kind of 'masculinity' will secure the love of a woman. I understand. I get it.

He's probably been hurt by a woman or two, and has witnessed that their love for him is highly conditional, thus becoming terrified of showing any kind of 'weakness'.

What you're hearing is pure fear that women are ultimately callous and incapable of loving men. It's not a weird idea - it's all over the place with the 'red pill', &c.

Honestly, when I'm cynical, this is where I go, even though I try to fight it by being emotional and open with women.

Imagine being in love, but not allowed to express it in any way for fear of killing her attraction to you - this is the dilemma many men are in today, and it's fucking scary. Baseless or not. Don't dismiss that.

Now, other than that, your attitude sucks, @wiredandwound.
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Funny because I can pretty much say that this is what most women feel about men.

Edit: But actually I wonder whether these things only apply to attractive people
 
April said:
Are you sure you're not INTJ... even @Deleted member 16771 was more understand and sensitive... and he IS INTJ...

Stop telling men to not be a pussy. That is just. UGH! Men have the right to feel like this and its people like you that make them uneasy about doing it. EW.
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If someone gets hurt by someone they love, it's absolutely imperative that they communicate it quickly - INFJ or not.

How do I know? Because I've had a ring on my finger for over 12 years in a world where 50% of marriages fail across all demographics.

Men, who have supportive friends, don't hold much back, when it comes to this kind of thing - it has nothing to do with personality type. Men don't care about the kind of person you love, they care about how their friend is handling the situation in a beneficial way.

I get it. Hearing the hard stuff sucks for the person receiving it. But do you know what is harder? Nobody saying anything at all, or just letting you go on with a delusion.
 
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