April
Normal Weirdo :)
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 296 sx/so
@Ren That's okay, you did reply, that's what matters!
You make some great points, and I think you may be on to something here.
I think that the uncertainty comes from a lack of experience with relationships. If people don't say that they are interested in me, I must not be interesting. I see myself as interesting, and that I have so much love to give, and that the right person could not be happier with me. But I still have low self esteem. I have never been a beauty queen. I was obese most of my life, still am a little. I never had that many guys lining up toget with me because of that. I knew if they could get post that, or even like it, then they could see I was worth it. Maybe that is why I overcompensate with personality...
Edited bc I accidentally posted only part of my answer.
I find it very hard to explain but, all these things are me. I'm so complicated, and contradictive. It's hard to know what I think, because I think so many things. I do have low self esteem, but on the other hand if someone could get past my looks, they would find a beautiful person bc I know I am different than most. Im just unsure of what others see in me, not what I see in myself. Maybe that is the INFJ in me. People are shallow mostly, in my experience. And that's why I'm unsure of myself. I care too much about what they see.
Now, if I looked like a model, and had guys and girls lined up to get with me, maybe my opinions would change. But idk if they would. Would I not then get tired of the shallow people then too? Lol see... I don't know anything for sure and the more I think about it, I'm just glad I don't look like a model bc it weeds out the people who are only interested in looks. But I do want to feel beautiful. Maybe that's another reason I stay in a bad relationship. He tells me all the time how beautiful I am and he can't keep his hands off me. Lol.
You make some great points, and I think you may be on to something here.
I think that the uncertainty comes from a lack of experience with relationships. If people don't say that they are interested in me, I must not be interesting. I see myself as interesting, and that I have so much love to give, and that the right person could not be happier with me. But I still have low self esteem. I have never been a beauty queen. I was obese most of my life, still am a little. I never had that many guys lining up toget with me because of that. I knew if they could get post that, or even like it, then they could see I was worth it. Maybe that is why I overcompensate with personality...
Edited bc I accidentally posted only part of my answer.
I find it very hard to explain but, all these things are me. I'm so complicated, and contradictive. It's hard to know what I think, because I think so many things. I do have low self esteem, but on the other hand if someone could get past my looks, they would find a beautiful person bc I know I am different than most. Im just unsure of what others see in me, not what I see in myself. Maybe that is the INFJ in me. People are shallow mostly, in my experience. And that's why I'm unsure of myself. I care too much about what they see.
Now, if I looked like a model, and had guys and girls lined up to get with me, maybe my opinions would change. But idk if they would. Would I not then get tired of the shallow people then too? Lol see... I don't know anything for sure and the more I think about it, I'm just glad I don't look like a model bc it weeds out the people who are only interested in looks. But I do want to feel beautiful. Maybe that's another reason I stay in a bad relationship. He tells me all the time how beautiful I am and he can't keep his hands off me. Lol.
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