Thank you very much Norwich, I will bear it in mind. I don't like that I have come on a public forum to discuss such personal issues but I felt desperate for some understanding of the infjs reactions. Most of my family and friends think my husband odd! I notice our '6 things you couldn't do without list' is really quite similar - plus I never thought to add camping which we do a lot! Anyway, I will see how things go, thank you for your very kind offer.
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