I think there are a lot of ways to be in touch with your feminine side. I am strait and recently married. I play sports, watch sports, talk sports. But I also majored in English Lit in college and like to think about spirituality, ideas, innovations, etc... Even so, INFJs are supposed to intuiitvely feel how others feel, and I can empathetically understand women. My femine side is trying to calm conflict, help solve problems, sooth tempers, etc... Masculine is agressive, dominant, behavior. Feminine is typically calming and cool, motherly type energy. I think I have a balance of both of these as probably many INFJs do.